Hey everybody, I hope everyone is achieveing the goals they set for themselves. I’ve already been on a dopamine detox for a couple months before I discovered Abraham’s channel but throughout it I have always listened to music for most hours of the day and enjoy it very much. Does this go against monk mode? Should I cut music out? It would be a major sacrifice, an even bigger one than consistently missing out on social gatherings. Thanks everybody!!

So I never had problems making friends or just walking up to someone and having a conversation with them, but recently I realized that whenever someone’s complimenting me I always compliment them back and how I lowkey want people to like me when I’m taking to them which actually might push them away from me so like do you guys have any advice on how not to be a people pleaser?

Hello, I've been struggling with accountability recently and was wondering if any of you have any suggestions for keeping oneself accountable and disciplined. My life has become so busy and messy that I haven't been able to find a straightforward way to ensure I'm taking responsibility for my actions and staying on track. I feel overwhelmed by the various tasks and responsibilities I need to manage, and it's challenging to maintain a sense of order and discipline. Are there any effective strategies or tools that could help me stay organized, track my progress, and ensure that I remain committed to my goals? I'm looking for practical advice or methods that can integrate seamlessly into my hectic schedule and help me regain control over my time and actions. Any insights or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

For info: I'm currently in highschool, in year 11/grade 11. My grades are low (I'm failing a course too) When I was a little child, I took school more seriously, and I actually enjoyed going to school because I got to do fun kid stuff - alongside learning. But things change when the 2020 covid-19 quarantine happened. After that, I found it difficult to actually care about school. I didn't enter highschool with a good mindset. Throughout grade/year 9, 10, and 11, my grades have been really bad. What makes it worse is that my mom is all about "getting your education" because it's how she was raised, so me and her would often get into quarrels about my efforts in school. Throughout highschool I've been so miserable. A big portion of my stress comes from school. It makes me neglect anything that has to do with school I.e. overdue assignments. This has just gotten worse overtime. Before I entered highschool, I confidentally told my mother that I would never skip school...spoiler: I do. This year, I've skipped more school than any other time in my life. Another thing which makes it difficult for me to care about school is that I have no plan on what job I intend to go into. I'm just doing random courses to get my credits. This makes me value school a whole lot less because...what's the purpose of it? I take a course, learn and have to memorize a bunch of stuff which I will forget overtime, stress about assignments that are due, and get my credit. That's it. I feel so directionless right now and I find no purpose in going to school. But, does this mean that it isn't important? No. I need my highschool diploma of course. But still, I've tried to get myself to actually care about school but I just don't. I always see it as of lesser importance. I envy the people who can genuinely care about school (and have high grades as well). Because I struggle to do both of those. I could go on for much longer about why I can't get myself to care about school, but I just want to find a solution.

I am a first-year student studying abroad. At first, I had big goals. I felt like this new life will change me forever but now when I have only exams left to finish and looking back at what I learned in university I feel like I didn't do enough and didn't really learn things that will be useful in the future. I have been having this lost feeling and the fear of not knowing what to do for a while now. If I have questions or want to know some tips I watch videos or ask others for advice. But I know that the real issue is in me. I have tried to understand what I want from this life and what I should do to achieve my goals but it's like I am getting distracted by other things and I am just letting life pass now. I want to change my life. I try new things and try to stay consistent with it but I still give up. And I am just falling back to my old habits. I have not been really doing things in university and I regret it a lot. My grades are low and I can't seem to find my purpose in life. Even though I regret not studying I still don't do it. And I know that what I am writing might seem very depressing or lost but that's how I am living. Day to day I have those same thoughts everyday and I don't take any action. Maybe mindlessly scrolling by watching tiktok videos and instagram reels has done this to me. So, if there are people that have faced this problem in the past or now feeling like this can give some advice or at least write a comment it would really help me and I will know that I am not alone. At this point, I am ready to do anything to change my life.