“What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.” Think about that for a second. It applies to every area of your life. The things you keep complaining about, the patterns you see in your relationships, the job that drains you, the habits that don’t serve you, even the mindsets that keep you stuck. If you’re not actively working to change them, you’re choosing them. You’re signing off on a life that doesn’t reflect who you really are or who you want to be. But here’s the good news: you have the power to change. The beauty of being human is that you are not just a passenger in life—you’re in the driver’s seat. Every choice you make can be intentional. Every decision can be a step toward the life you actually want, rather than a repeat of the life you’re settling for. The challenge is that it’s easy to get comfortable. It’s easy to blame circumstances, other people, or even bad luck. But ultimately, if you’re not doing something to improve or alter your situation, you’re passively agreeing to keep it the way it is. Let’s break this down. 1. Relationships If you’re not happy with the quality of your relationships, are you doing anything to change them? Are you setting boundaries? Are you communicating your needs and expectations? Or are you staying quiet, accepting treatment that doesn’t align with your values, and hoping things will magically improve? Every relationship is a mirror of what you’re allowing. If you’re not changing the dynamics or the people you surround yourself with, you’re choosing to keep things as they are. And maybe that’s because it feels easier to stay in familiar patterns than to take the leap into the unknown. But real change starts when you stop accepting what doesn’t serve you. 2. Your Work Your job is where you spend most of your waking hours. If it’s draining you, if it’s pulling you away from what actually matters, why are you staying? If you’re staying just for the paycheck or the “security,” then realize that you’re choosing that trade-off. You’re choosing a life of “good enough” over one where you’re fully engaged and alive.

It’s easy to act the part when everyone’s watching. To put on the face, play the game, and live up to the standards we set for the public eye. But when we’re alone—no applause, no validation, no one to impress—the standards we really hold start to show. The truth is, we don’t rise to the standards we present to the world. We fall to the standards we’ve set for ourselves when no one is looking. The only work that actually matters is the work that happens behind the scenes, where there’s no audience and no spotlight. This is the work that shows you who you really are, not who you say you are. When you strip away the need for validation, you’re left with your raw self—the you that doesn’t need applause to show up. This is the work that builds real strength, resilience, and identity. Think about it: when you’re grinding on a project in silence, reading a book that will stretch your mind, or practicing a skill with no promise of immediate payoff, you’re building depth. You’re building substance. You’re building something that lasts. And here’s why this is so important: Most people are living to uphold a persona they’ve built for others. Their actions are dictated by what they think will get them attention, status, or approval. And yeah, that might get you some quick wins, but the foundation is weak. It’s hollow. It doesn’t hold up when things get tough because it’s built on the shifting sand of others’ opinions. If you’re working for external validation, you’re not building yourself—you’re just renting other people’s approval. It feels good for a moment, sure. But when the applause fades, what are you left with? You’re back at square one, left with only yourself and the standards you hold when no one’s there to see you. When you’re focused on the unseen work, on setting standards that only matter to you, you start to shape who you truly are. You’re not trying to *look* successful. You’re aiming to *be* someone you can respect, even when no one else is around to affirm it.

Big shout to everyone who has finished the 7-Day challenge and to everyone who is in the process. My hope is that you can find a way to continue to infuse your day with some of these habits. Looking forward to announcing some challenge winners as we get more people finishing up the challenge. Side note: I’m really excited for something I’ve been building the last couple months and I can’t wait to share that with all of you soon. Keep crushing it fam. all is possible XX

We’ve all heard it before: "Pay yourself first." It’s classic financial wisdom meant to remind us to prioritize saving and investing before anything else. But what if I told you that this principle extends far beyond your bank account? What if paying yourself first is the key not just to financial success, but to thriving in every area of your life? The truth is, life demands a constant outpouring. We’re always giving—our time, our energy, our attention. And too often, we give until we’re empty. We give without ever stopping to refill ourselves, and when that happens, we start running on fumes. We get worn down, burned out, and eventually, we’re no good to anyone—not even ourselves. So, what does it really mean to pay yourself first? It’s about more than just money. It’s about investing in the most valuable asset you have: you. It’s about making sure that you’re fueled, fed, and ready to give your best to the world. If you’re broke—mentally, physically, emotionally—how can you expect to help others? If you’re running on empty, you’ll end up becoming a taker instead of the giver you were created to be. First, pay your mind. What are you feeding your thoughts? What are you allowing into the most sacred space you have—your consciousness? In today’s world, we’re bombarded with information, most of it noise. If you don’t pay your mind with worthy things, if you don’t nourish it with wisdom, knowledge, and insight, it will starve. It will fill up with junk—things that drain you rather than empower you. Pay yourself with education, with books that challenge your perspective, with conversations that stretch your understanding. Feed your mind things that elevate you, that make you think, that inspire you to grow. When you pay your mind first, everything else in your life shifts. You start seeing opportunities where others see obstacles. You begin to create solutions rather than just react to problems. A well-fed mind is a powerful thing. Second, pay yourself with time.

We all dream of doing great things—of living a life filled with purpose, success, and significance. But here’s the secret most people miss: greatness doesn’t come in grand moments. It’s built in the small, seemingly insignificant choices we make when no one is watching. The opportunities your heart desires? They don’t arrive overnight. They come to those who are willing to do the little things right, day in and day out, with no applause, no recognition, and no immediate reward. They come to those who have the courage to show up for themselves, even when the only person who knows about it is you. The person you want to become is shaped in those quiet moments when the rest of the world isn’t paying attention. It’s easy to show up when there’s an audience, when the spotlight is on, and when people are cheering you on. But the real transformation happens when no one is watching. When there’s no one to pat you on the back, no one to celebrate your wins. The most important person who’s watching is you. Every time you keep a small promise to yourself, every time you choose discipline over comfort, every time you do what’s right rather than what’s easy, you’re building the person you’re meant to become and opening doors to the opportunities you dream of by being prepared and able to recognize them when they arrive. It’s not about perfection. It’s about consistency. You don’t need to do extraordinary things every day—you just need to do the little things well, with intention and integrity. SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF TODAY Because every small act of discipline, every decision to do the right thing, builds momentum. And that momentum shapes you into someone who is confident, courageous, and unstoppable. When you honor your own promises, you become someone you can trust. Think about it: how often do we break promises to ourselves? We say we’ll start that project tomorrow, we’ll stick to that habit next week, we’ll pursue that goal when the timing is right. But every time we don’t follow through, we chip away at our own confidence. We start to doubt ourselves, and that doubt can paralyze us.