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THE UNLOCK

“What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.”

Think about that for a second. It applies to every area of your life. The things you keep complaining about, the patterns you see in your relationships, the job that drains you, the habits that don’t serve you, even the mindsets that keep you stuck. If you’re not actively working to change them, you’re choosing them. You’re signing off on a life that doesn’t reflect who you really are or who you want to be.

But here’s the good news: you have the power to change. The beauty of being human is that you are not just a passenger in life—you’re in the driver’s seat. Every choice you make can be intentional. Every decision can be a step toward the life you actually want, rather than a repeat of the life you’re settling for.

The challenge is that it’s easy to get comfortable. It’s easy to blame circumstances, other people, or even bad luck. But ultimately, if you’re not doing something to improve or alter your situation, you’re passively agreeing to keep it the way it is.

Let’s break this down.

1. Relationships

If you’re not happy with the quality of your relationships, are you doing anything to change them? Are you setting boundaries? Are you communicating your needs and expectations? Or are you staying quiet, accepting treatment that doesn’t align with your values, and hoping things will magically improve?

Every relationship is a mirror of what you’re allowing. If you’re not changing the dynamics or the people you surround yourself with, you’re choosing to keep things as they are. And maybe that’s because it feels easier to stay in familiar patterns than to take the leap into the unknown. But real change starts when you stop accepting what doesn’t serve you.

2. Your Work

Your job is where you spend most of your waking hours. If it’s draining you, if it’s pulling you away from what actually matters, why are you staying? If you’re staying just for the paycheck or the “security,” then realize that you’re choosing that trade-off. You’re choosing a life of “good enough” over one where you’re fully engaged and alive.

The truth is, there are thousands of paths to fulfillment in your work. But it takes courage to start looking, to take steps in a new direction, to start building something that aligns with your core values. If you’re not exploring options, learning new skills, or setting yourself up for a pivot, you’re choosing to stay where you are. And maybe that’s okay for now, but be honest with yourself about what that choice really means.

3. Health and Habits

The same goes for your health. Your body, your energy levels, your mental clarity—all of it is shaped by the choices you make. Every time you decide to put off exercise, to skip a night of good sleep, to eat food that doesn’t fuel you, you’re making a choice.

You’re either choosing a lifestyle that supports the person you want to be or one that keeps you comfortable. And there’s nothing inherently wrong with comfort, but realize that if you’re not making small changes, you’re choosing the status quo.

The Power of Choice

Here’s the bottom line: you can change or you can stay the same. Both are choices. There’s no third option. And if you’re feeling stuck or unsatisfied, look at the areas of your life where you’re settling for less than you deserve. Look at where you’ve been waiting for things to magically improve without putting in the work.

Choosing to stay in a situation that doesn’t align with you is still a choice, just like choosing to leave or improve it is a choice. The only difference is which option moves you closer to a life you’re excited to live.

The beautiful part of all this? You have the power to change your life every day. You’re capable of rethinking your standards, resetting your boundaries, and reimagining what’s possible. You can wake up tomorrow and start making new choices, choosing different thoughts, taking different actions.

The process of change isn’t about taking massive, life-altering steps every day. It’s about choosing differently, moment by moment. It’s about choosing a life that reflects your values, that energizes you, that challenges you in the best ways. Every decision, no matter how small, shapes the future you’re building.

So, What Are You Choosing?

The next time you catch yourself complaining or feeling frustrated, ask yourself:

Is this something I’m changing, or is it something I’m choosing?

It’s a tough question, but it’s necessary. Because if you’re tired of where you are, but you’re unwilling to change, then you’re choosing that reality. And if that’s the case, at least own the choice. Be conscious of it. Take responsibility for it.

But if you’re ready to make a change—if you’re ready to create a life that feels more like you—start by making the smallest shifts today. They don’t have to be big; they just have to be consistent. Little by little, those small shifts compound, and over time, you’ll find yourself living in a way that feels intentional, aligned, and powerful.

Remember, the life you’re living is the result of your choices. If it’s not what you want, make a different one.

It’s as simple—and as challenging—as that.

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