âWhat youâre not changing, youâre choosing.â Think about that for a second. It applies to every area of your life. The things you keep complaining about, the patterns you see in your relationships, the job that drains you, the habits that donât serve you, even the mindsets that keep you stuck. If youâre not actively working to change them, youâre choosing them. Youâre signing off on a life that doesnât reflect who you really are or who you want to be. But hereâs the good news: you have the power to change. The beauty of being human is that you are not just a passenger in lifeâyouâre in the driverâs seat. Every choice you make can be intentional. Every decision can be a step toward the life you actually want, rather than a repeat of the life youâre settling for. The challenge is that itâs easy to get comfortable. Itâs easy to blame circumstances, other people, or even bad luck. But ultimately, if youâre not doing something to improve or alter your situation, youâre passively agreeing to keep it the way it is. Letâs break this down. 1. Relationships If youâre not happy with the quality of your relationships, are you doing anything to change them? Are you setting boundaries? Are you communicating your needs and expectations? Or are you staying quiet, accepting treatment that doesnât align with your values, and hoping things will magically improve? Every relationship is a mirror of what youâre allowing. If youâre not changing the dynamics or the people you surround yourself with, youâre choosing to keep things as they are. And maybe thatâs because it feels easier to stay in familiar patterns than to take the leap into the unknown. But real change starts when you stop accepting what doesnât serve you. 2. Your Work Your job is where you spend most of your waking hours. If itâs draining you, if itâs pulling you away from what actually matters, why are you staying? If youâre staying just for the paycheck or the âsecurity,â then realize that youâre choosing that trade-off. Youâre choosing a life of âgood enoughâ over one where youâre fully engaged and alive.