All things I need to work on as well, thanks for putting this out there!

Please let me know if there is a policy against external links I should be aware of, but it turns out there is a recent video from Orion Tariban on exactly this same question, with rather similar conclusions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZByeDZBaB7Y

@Aaron Frater Yes, sometimes he is a bit too "conventional red pill talking points" for me, but he has some real insightful content sometimes. His take on masculinity is spot on, IMO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92z27GM0BnE and this analogy for how to consider the meaning of life is very astute as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fY1H6ZfnOHA

I don't think Dan said casual sex lowers self confidence, and it doesn't seem like a "Brojo-ism". Integrity is more about the why than the what If you are out and about, you have a couple hours free in the near future, and then you see a woman whose appearance turns you on, then you go up and talk to her, you can see that she likes you to, and then you proceed with telling her what you'd like to do to her and then you take her home and get that done, I don't see how anyone could say there is anything wrong with that whatsoever But often, and perhaps even most of the time, people pursue casual sex obsessively, that is spend way too much time on something that is just a fun hobby. Also people use casual sex as escapism from other problems, and also seek validation through sexual conquest. I think Dan was pointing this out as a very common phenomenon among men. Same thing goes for relationships, though, from what I see. If a man thinks consciously and deliberately "I would like to have and raise a child, and in the place where I am living and happy to live in, a monogamous long term relationship appears to be the most straightforward institution by which to do that, and so I will find a woman with good mother qualities and proceed" that's an integrity-based relationship search. But it seems few men do exactly that. Rather, they pursue relationships because they feel they have to, or out of loneliness, or other less conscious reasons. Ultimately, since long term monogamous relationships were only culturally invented fairly recently, a desire for a relationship without an underlying reason reflecting long term goals appears to be a subconscious reach for social approval/acceptance/status If you are interested in casual sex as well as the Brojo philosophy, I HIGHLY recommend studying Alan Roger Currie (RIP) and his Mode One approach of being "up front, straightforward, and honest". He mentored me for a bit as well and is just as "religious" about integrity as Dan is. Even if you aren't interested that much in casual sex, his approach helped me immensely as far as mitigating the sexual shame Brojo talks about.