Today I want to recognise James, a client I worked with for just a few weeks. James is one of those guys who if you met him at a bar you would never suspect has confidence issues. But he was plagued with limiting beliefs about his worth, especially in relation to dating and attraction. James was able to challenge these beliefs with leap-of-faith bravery. His real strength is being able to see that his beliefs do not align with objective evidence, and then he will take action that better aligns with reality. In his case, that meant realizing that his belief that "women don't want me" is very unlikely to be true (because women have shown interest in the past, and straight women are generally interested in men). Him behaving like he's unattractive matched his imagination, not his reality. Going against his irrational fear, James started expressing attraction honestly towards women, taking advantage of a holiday overseas to give himself permission to break old patterns and rules. The responses he got blew his mind. It turns out, women quite enjoy being approached by bold respectful men who are honest and direct. James now enjoys limitless dating opportunites and a sense of freedom thanks to his actions rewriting his belief system. He can also confront people in a way that previously felt impossible. Anyone could do what James has done so long as they're prepared to feel like they're doing something "wrong" when their actions don't match their limiting beliefs. James' ability to endure cognitive dissonance is the reason he was able to create a better life for himself. Well done James! Cheers Dan

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