Daily Dose of Integrity New full length video out today! This video is part 1 of a 6-part series on loving yourself. Let's tackle the struggle of self-acceptance and kindness. I've been frustrated that common self-love advice often lacks practical application, so I wish to provide a solution. This video looks at causes of stress, such as societal pressures and the inability to let go of control, leading to self-loathing and fluctuating self-worth. We'll investigate how coping mechanisms like overworking, substance abuse, and people-pleasing as signs of unresolved self-acceptance issues. We'll look at increasing self-acceptance through the art of reducing stress and fostering genuine kindness towards oneself, akin to how one treats loved ones. Watch the video here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-it-means-to-be-kind-to-yourself-pt-1-self-love-series/

They felt overwhelmed with so much content available on youtube and with the skool courses. I thought my reply might be helpful for others here too. "Hey dude, the key to optimising learning is you have got to work backwards from your goal. Our brains are freaking learning machines and we get in our own way. 1. Know your outcome (what are you learning about and for what purpose?.) If reading this book/watching this video got you the desired result - what does that look like? Be as specific as possible. How are you different after learning this. 2.Have a clear intent with your why with learning - don't get muddled up with self vanity metrics of ticking off books on your reading list or thinking you have to go through every video or needing to remember every detail. Be clear about your intent. If its watching videos on confidence, then get ready to use the information in your domain confidently. 3. Apply what your learning - go tell others about it (teaching is the best way to retain information) Even if its txting a friend or family member or go write a blog or comment somewhere on the internet. Follow these three steps and you will learn to be on a different level. Not the information overload level the other level. BIG hint the most effective way to learn is about the attitude. An attitude of having a goal and being curious about learning ways and things/concepts that will get you there faster. And more easily."

I’ve pretty much had the same hobby for 25 years. But given a big tangled mess of issues (the same ones that bring me to Brojo) it’s become more stressful and depressing than entertaining. So I’m on the hunt for alternatives. For reference, I’ve been dancing one or more of salsa/bachata/kizomba/zouk since 1999. It’s pretty challenging finding something that fills the gaps in fitness, social intros, nights at the bar, IRL tinder, and regular travel destinations for big events. Plus of course finding something I find interesting. So, let’s have a discussion about what you guys get yourselves up to. PS, I’ve done a few PT boxing sessions at the gym, which has got me to look at the nearby boxing gyms and Krav Maga options. I plan to check out a few trial classes.

Daily Dose of Integrity If you're struggling: get support, ask for help. One of the hardest things in the world for me to do—is to ask for help. I’ve recently added two new members to my team—one to help me with creative administrative tasks and the other to help me with sales. It took me months to work myself up to actually ask them. Then, afterwards, I thought “Why didn't I do this earlier? This makes my life so much better and it makes their life better too!” Every time I've hired a coach, seen a therapist or asked my wife for advice, I always find it insightful. I don’t always agree with their perspectives, but I learned that it is helpful to include other people. If nothing else, just to validate my own ideas and come back to the basics. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCLQPupQEeM

One of the things that did come up is that in general the project I am working on is very challenging, and so spending 60-70 hours a week on math is necessary in order to develop the research successfully. Overall I mostly enjoy, and can, as Brojo suggested, cultivate enjoyment of all of the actual momentary activities of it. However it doesn't leave much time for other things. But at the same time other things are not so valuable. Emotionally I do have a desire to practice music more than the 5-10 hours a week that the work regimen allows me for. But at the same time I suppose it is purposeless recreation. That is, I did fail as a musician and am generally poorly regarded as a musician and performer in general. So I don't add much value to the world by playing and so engaging with music is self indulgent. Now, with pickup and sex I've made peace with it, but that was easier because I at least had the experience of being sexually attractive and having a highly pleasurable exciting sex life in my 20s, at the sacrifice of having to spend a full time job worth of time on pickup study and practice as well as drug use to make myself more charismatic. And with hedonism rather empty at the end of the day, I can look back at an active sex life as simply a nice memory from my youth. And since I don't want kids there's no external reason to pursue women in that respect. However, with music, I never had the exciting experiences of performing for large audiences. So it's a bit more difficult emotionally to say that I will treat it as a hobby to enjoy myself and refrain from pursuit of performance beyond occasional open mics or busking and refrain from recording and releasing my compositions. I suppose one possibility is having some point in the future to aim for, say in 5 years, when I am successful enough to obtain a semblance of professional security and be able to reduce my work hours closer to 50 and then spending more time on music then. But that's a big if. So is this a matter of simply emotional processing, that is "grieving" that dream of the "compelling musician" experience?