Daily Dose of Integrity If you're struggling: get support, ask for help. One of the hardest things in the world for me to do—is to ask for help. I’ve recently added two new members to my team—one to help me with creative administrative tasks and the other to help me with sales. It took me months to work myself up to actually ask them. Then, afterwards, I thought “Why didn't I do this earlier? This makes my life so much better and it makes their life better too!” Every time I've hired a coach, seen a therapist or asked my wife for advice, I always find it insightful. I don’t always agree with their perspectives, but I learned that it is helpful to include other people. If nothing else, just to validate my own ideas and come back to the basics. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCLQPupQEeM

Daily Dose of Integrity I've worked with people seeking help with confrontations for decades now. I've come to the conclusion that the best intention you can have is to build self-respect. Intention is the only thing that you can control. It requires nothing from anyone else. No matter how good you are at confrontations, there is no guaranteed way to control another person. You cannot force people to even listen to you, let alone change their behaviour and treat you with respect or do what you prefer. As soon as you have attachment to outcomes, you've already lost, because no matter how good you get at your tactics— you just won't be able to control everyone. While you cannot control other people, you can make the reason you engage in confrontations and boundary setting clear to yourself: it’s about building your confidence through building self-respect. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/1XI5kQvaS9I

Daily Dose of Integrity Jealousy shows us that we feel threatened. Often, this threat manifests as fear of losing something, therefore we are possessive. Sexual history jealousy (often known as Retroactive Jealousy) is telling us that you are possessive around your girlfriend. Part of you is trying to keep her to yourself, and so you see her previous experience as a threat to that. We could extrapolate this out, and see that some part of you believes that her previous sexual history somehow indicates that she could be perhaps more interested in other men than you, and therefore be stolen away at some point. Or, you could think that her history somehow diminishes her enjoyment of you, and therefore is a threat to the relationship. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/_4Jibv8jMho

Daily Dose of Integrity My truth is more valuable than my lies. While your truth may hurt someone's feelings or it might be something that they can't quite handle at the moment, it is accurate information— which means they can use it. They can make decisions. They can plan. They can decide what they're going to do with you and with their life around you based on information that's true. So, it's probably going to be the best decisions that they can make. When you feed them lies and deception that's what they make their decisions off—that can lead them down a false path, that can lead them to a fake life. If, for example, they think that you like them when you don't, they might make plans around you liking them, and then be disappointed and crushed when they finally realize that you don't. It crushes all their plans. So, make sure people are getting the best information they possibly can to make decisions —and that information is the truth.

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