With the group continuing to grow, now at over 419 members, I’m as surprised as ever how many guys don’t actively participate in their own rescue. I see maybe 20 guys who are only semi active on the boards/zoom calls. That’s less that 5%, pretty pathetic… Your inner work isn’t going improve itself and I want to challenge everyone to DO BETTER. Too many guys only “show up” when there’s a crisis, and only marginally improve. Share your struggles, share what you’re working on, share the losses too. A rising tide lifts all ships, we can all elevate together. Huge shout out to @Austin Wright for putting in the work and allowing himself to be vulnerable enough to get feedback from the group.

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In the space of 48 hours, I have lost my kids and a business partner. Time to forge a new identity. Separation under Japanese law means I can be arrested if I so much as stand outside school to get a glimpse of them playing in the courtyard. I am grieving this abrupt loss. As for the business, sometimes it is better to stay in the friendzone rather than invest time, energy and money. All in all, everything happens for the best. I start with a blank slate. I am becoming the hero I am dreaming of. I am now writing the next chapters of my life. It is time to empty my cup, let go of the bagage and reset. I am grateful the wife pulled the plug as opposed to 6 years later. It would have been tougher to rebuild. I am grateful things did not work out with this business project. Something else will be calling. It all starts from being intentional, getting clarity. There is no better place than this old Japanese thermal spring located in a volcano crater under a typhoon to strip everything and gain clarity

Recently I saw a popular Tate IG thing where he’s mocking guys who cook. Jay Waller does this as well. I do agree concerts, festivals, sports are waste of time but what man works 24/7? I get his premise that broke guys have no time to waste in this regard, but if I work hit the gym I’m some loser if I watch a game, take my girl out to dinner or cook a meal cause I enjoy it? Honestly I do know guys who are always “on their grind” but can’t say they are any happier because it’s all they have. How much money, muscles or things is enough? If you drop dead are you happy you had those things vs enjoyable memories or a vacation? When he says your broke we’ll most people don’t have that $ he has and honestly how did he come about it? Rich is subjective. My dad died penniless but his kids always had what we needed. All he wanted was for me to be better and I have been. If I were to die my wife has more than enough to live a good life. What if your purpose is to love and serve God and be a good husband and father? It’s not enough? Get where he’s coming from but never a fan of shaming to try and light a fire under guys

@Paul Benjamin I've noticed a tendency in myself to display hypervigilant and fear-based aggressive behaviors in circumstances that present perceived risk of being cheated/taken advantage of/snubbed ref. job circumstances/compensation/other things related to the lower levels of the Maslow hierarchy. I've no doubt this relates to paradigms that stem from childhood and fear of being neglected and the inherent threats to survival that brings in young life, but the question is this: How do I cultivate more composure when the instinct to "go for the jugular" (of a manager, colleague, business partner, etc.) and launch a preemptive strike/deterrance as soon as those long standing survival triggers/behaviors begin to manifest, while maintaining healthy and appropriate boundaries when lines are crossed? And how to accurately discern the difference? It hasn't yet caused true catastrophe in my life as outwardly i’m quite composed (but not perfect) but it could at the very least sour one's existence internally and it's not something I want to stain or be the flavor of my years on this earth. P.S. I'm sure there are direct parallels to how this plays out with a calm and composed mindset with women and maintaining frame as all of this comes down to a core feeling of safety that is independent of outside circumstance, but the above is a domain I find more important to serve first.