Sep 16 (edited) in General discussion
Dealing with fear-based hypervigilance while maintaining healthy boundaries
I've noticed a tendency in myself to display hypervigilant and fear-based aggressive behaviors in circumstances that present perceived risk of being cheated/taken advantage of/snubbed ref. job circumstances/compensation/other things related to the lower levels of the Maslow hierarchy. I've no doubt this relates to paradigms that stem from childhood and fear of being neglected and the inherent threats to survival that brings in young life, but the question is this:
How do I cultivate more composure when the instinct to "go for the jugular" (of a manager, colleague, business partner, etc.) and launch a preemptive strike/deterrance as soon as those long standing survival triggers/behaviors begin to manifest, while maintaining healthy and appropriate boundaries when lines are crossed? And how to accurately discern the difference?
It hasn't yet caused true catastrophe in my life as outwardly i’m quite composed (but not perfect) but it could at the very least sour one's existence internally and it's not something I want to stain or be the flavor of my years on this earth.
P.S. I'm sure there are direct parallels to how this plays out with a calm and composed mindset with women and maintaining frame as all of this comes down to a core feeling of safety that is independent of outside circumstance, but the above is a domain I find more important to serve first.
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Dealing with fear-based hypervigilance while maintaining healthy boundaries
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