I was finally able to overcome my fear and I made a cold approach, just minutes ago. I'm so excited that I was able to do it and I wanted to tell some people who actually cared. Big deal, your thinking...I haven't made an approach in at least 5 years and have been really struggling with paralyzing dread, not fear or nervousness, actual dread. As if you just told me I'm being deployed to fight Russians on the Kursk battlefront. So, hurray for me!, it's vag as far as the eye can see from here on out. Be good.

I came across a video from “Playing With Fire” that slid into my algorithm this morning and the title as catchy enough for me to take the bait : Asking Girls When They Last Got Laid. I’ve watched Alex’s material in the past, and it’s generally pretty neutral and not as sperg as most other dating channels. This is basically a man on the street type video, walking up to random chicks in downtown Miami and asking them the last time they had sex. Now I realize people won’t always respond/report accurately, so we need to take the videos with a grain of salt, but I still couldn’t help but find the video very eye opening. I’d ask all of you guys to give it a watch, it’s only 7mins and brings up some excellent talking points that most RP videos brainwash us into thinking is impossible. Here were my take aways : 1. Not every girl walking the streets is throwing her pussy at multiple guys. Take a listen and see how many girls aren’t very sexually active, and a few even complaining half heartedly about not getting laid enough. 2. When Alex asks where they met their last lay, pay attention to the sources. Very little social media, only 1-2 from dating apps, the majority was SOCIAL CIRCLE. Paul reminds us of this all the time : real life is undefeated in seduction. Notice there weren’t many girls (if any) who said a Chad picked them up at the grocery store and smashed? Most of these girls were getting fucked by guys organically. 3. I was really surprised how many girls had fucked guys in their orbit for YEARS. Maybe I shouldn’t be shocked at this point, but I think the 2 big take aways are playing it cool and being ok with “friends” if you don’t smash, but the elephant in the room : DONT LET YOUR GIRL HAVE GUY FRIENDS AND ORBITERS. It would be great it all these guys were confident men who respected boundaries, but I’d bet most of them were weasels. I’d also be curious how many of these old “friends” were getting action AFTER the girl broke up with a higher value guy…

What I never see video content from anybody on is the initial text game. I know Corey Wayne says you have to get the ball rolling and then expect the woman to do most of the pursuing. My conundrum is when I match online get a phone number and they are reluctant to reach out. Many of them will flake anyway so I feel like you have to create a bridge until you can actually meet. The bridge meaning daily text may be a picture, something to keep them engaged. Am I wrong on this? And should I sit back and make the woman either text First occasionally or forget about the thread? Again, I’m talking mainly about the few days or week between linking up phone numbers and actually meeting.

A lot of the recent discussions around the Alpha Mindset course has gotten me curious again, and I’m starting to go through the material a 2nd time. Mod 4 “Neural Behavioral Conditioning” has really struck a chord with me, especially the part where Paul gives the example of military training. In firearms training, when a mistake is made they signal the issue with “MALFUNCTION” and then proceed to amend the mistake. Rinse and repeat, fix then repeat. Last week I broke up with my LTR, and working on my own mindset around the relationship while deciding if either/both of us are capable of a casual relationship. Since watching the module last night, now when facing a thought of “man this sucks”, immediately catch the “malfunction” and tell myself : NO, this sucks FOR HER. And then a few minutes later I might have another though “this is really sad”, but quickly remind myself : NO, this sucks FOR HER. While my ex is a very special girl with a lot of great qualities, I’ve learned about myself this year that no matter what I’m always going to come out on top. No matter how big the setback, I have the grit and ability to set my ego aside in order to experience massive growth. So when I catch myself having a weak moment, I allow my mind to absorb the thought that yes it sucks if she’s going to be out of my life, but I’m the type of man that will always do better. This is why if we inevitably can’t work through this, it really sucks FOR HER, and I’ll continue to sand down my blind spots and become a better, more attractive and higher SMV man. What do you guys think? Do any members do something similar? Do you think I have a good grasp on the video and how to apply it?

This happend recently but I want to discuss it for the future. I don't wish to bury the lead, I couldn't stop the emotional investment on this one, girls a great prospect. A recent first date went well, but then in retrospect I realized I was a bit pushy to get her back to mine, then she kinda just ghosted after the date. After the date, I was still happy with the result despite this so I sent her a text some hours later that she was fun to hangout and would like to see her again, then the ghost. Now, this is the first time I've been ghosted, my plan would currently be to ask her if everythings alright maybe after the weekend or something. My main question of this discussion is, do you calibrate your takeaway with how you messed up, maybe I say that "I might've given the wrong impression, of course I want to have fun but I might've been a bit disrespectful" (I will say it in a nonqualifying way, but maybe it just is qualifying by me even reaching out). The other side of me could just next her and see my other girls, then again I don't want to leave good prospects on the table and maybe I can save this. TLDR; If you mess up a little on a date, do you try-, and how do you try to keep seeing her after she ghosts.