Long response here and I hope it helps. Your game here is communicating weakness and that she is better than you and not the other way around. First, change your mindset. What do you have to offer her? Looks/physical attraction mostly takes care of itself and if you are a 5/10 or up in her eyes, game can take care of the rest. If you can give a girl amazing orgasms, a good time, and you offer stability for long term relationship, and you have excellent game, you are a rare find. You are a catch to girls of her caliber. So you need to act like that, right? Texting her 2 hours after a date like that is a terrible game move for a guy (a great one for a girl). Do you know that? If you know better and your emotions and monkey brain convinced you that was a good idea, then that is an inner game issue. If you generally thought that was a good idea, then that is a game/skill issue. Alpha Mindset Course will take care of the inner game, Pick up skills for a busy man would take care of the outer game/skills gaps. Mastermind group or Elite Group will take care of all of it and elevate you very quickly by helping you ingrain new behaviors. From reading your message though, don’t take this offensively but though you can get dates and are doing ok, it seems like you can make some improvements in both areas (inner and outer game), and you would get very different and much better results. Based on your post, I am guessing there were mistakes on the date; mistakes that you can't see as well as the ones you can. As to the takeaway. You texted her 2 hours after the date. She didn't respond. Don't start apologizing and making excuses or asking her what's wrong or any of that shit. That is a really bad framework. You are automatically assuming that you fucked this up somehow. Maybe you did. But maybe you didn't as bad as you think. And there are other qualities about you that could be good enough to for her to want to try again. You have to act and assume that you are the prize and communicate that with your actions or she won't believe it either. Period. And women aren't charitable with their pussies... they only want to fuck a guy when they feel like they are benefiting or winning something.

lol so now I need to get guys to try out the above technique so I can gather more data. 😂 There are so many ways it could work but also ways it could fail too. You are already running uphill when she isn't responding to you.

Ok bare with me and read this to the end because I am going to be a bit harsh here on enneagrams and these sorts of assessment tools. This can invoke a monkey brain response and a need to defend rather then objectively hear what I am saying. Just keep an open mind. So I'm not a huge fan of these types of tests because they are basically "horoscope" type thinking made to look "scientific". Enneagram's aren't scientific or backed by research. When put to the test and researched, in so many ways Enneagram fails to produce and it is rejected by credible therapists and psychology professionals. And they aren't really backed by any sort of tradition either. What do I mean by backed by tradition? So let's take something "horoscopie" (my made up word for things that are kind of flakey and subjective and anecdotal that are presented like objective truth) from religion. If several generations of people have been doing it in an established tradition and getting a particular set of effects or benefits, it stands to reason that maybe some of those effects and benefits might be true even if not tested or studied, and even if the reasons they are effective aren't the same reasons the religion believes. So where did Enneagrams come from? They were basically made up by some psychiatrists in Latin America who were influenced by Jungian psychology and work done on archetypes. The idea behind archetypes according to Jung is actually a good one conceptually. Where they get into horoscopie territory is when they try to determine brand archetypes like Jung's 12 types (the hero, the outlaw, the explorer, etc) or with Enneagrams there's 9 types (Perfectionist, helper/giver, performer, etc). These types aren't really based in anything. These types are about as accurate as someone saying, "ya know, there are 3 types of white people... Successful, lazy, and some who are kind of in between..." Like wtf are we talking about lol. I could keep writing for days picking enneagrams apart (as I could myers briggs, love languages, Jungian Archtypes, etc) so let me sum it up lol.

Glad to help brother!

It's probably for the best even if it doesn't feel that way. This material will help you a lot.

To answer this question, I think it's valuable to watch the entire thing so you know where it's going. But most important is that you start. So urgency on starting and taking action with where you are at (phase 1 in your case). And then move through the process. Doing (and not doing) the right things in each phase is most important, regardless of how you get there.

100%! You got it man! That's exactly what you are supposed to do. I use the analogy of hitting these thoughts with a hammer. Any time they come up, you reframe. Reframe. Reframe. Reframe 100's of times if you have too. Eventually the brain accepts the old patterns as untrue and unhelpful, and the reframe as true. And that supposes that the reframe fits with objective reality (which yours 100% does). Great job brother!