It took more than a decade to get here. My videos never go viral or get major support, but you few who watch and appreciate them make it all worthwhile. Here's to another 5,000!

Hey everyone, congrats to us for reaching this milestone that I arbitrarily decided is important. Yay numbers! As a reward for being one of the first 150, each of you can choose one of my books to have for free. Just comment below with the title of the book you want! List here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/dan-munros-books/

I came across Dan's blogpost on : what is healthy masculinity, https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-man-defining-healthy-masculinity/ which led me to a post on what is honesty. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqNTCAst-1w I have kinda known my nice guy stuff was pretty extreme, and I hide a lot from the world to put up an easy going , like me, give me my needs without me asking, kind of front. I always sort of knew that was lying by omission, but it is a lifetime strategy... so hard for me to go against. In my last relationship, I saw how I do this extra so in a relationship so my then partner would be nice to me and give me sex, And, it did not work ! It had the reverse effect... the same as pretty much every other relationship dynamic I have been in. It is all that making others feel good to make myself feel good, nice guy stuff. Its the not standing up for myself and vulnerably being open about all my inner self. That really affected my last relationship (all of them I am sure), I didn't speak up, so I allowed her to think her bad opinion of me was the truth, which made things even harder , as I desperately "niced" all over the place, until I melted down and ran. Not a successful strategy! I see a lot of my "problem" of life in the nice guy lying through omission, and lack of courage, ... I see a lot of the answer to the problem in the courageous act of being vulnerable enough to be honest...

Creating a fake self or watered down version of self years ago. Making an unconscious vow to procrastinate your true self and truest desires to "feel safe". Only to feel safe, not to be safe. The exchange is you miss out on your dream: country, location, friends, partner hobbies, work, life It's a shit thing to realise how down to the core some of these fearful beliefs go. It's also empowering knowing this now, looking at it and using courage to change it! Feel the fear and do it anyway is just one wise way of saying "live YOUR life fully."

Running with it, big change in mindset, big change in habits. Again, thank you for putting this out there.