I came across Dan's blogpost on : what is healthy masculinity, https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-man-defining-healthy-masculinity/ which led me to a post on what is honesty. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqNTCAst-1w I have kinda known my nice guy stuff was pretty extreme, and I hide a lot from the world to put up an easy going , like me, give me my needs without me asking, kind of front. I always sort of knew that was lying by omission, but it is a lifetime strategy... so hard for me to go against. In my last relationship, I saw how I do this extra so in a relationship so my then partner would be nice to me and give me sex, And, it did not work ! It had the reverse effect... the same as pretty much every other relationship dynamic I have been in. It is all that making others feel good to make myself feel good, nice guy stuff. Its the not standing up for myself and vulnerably being open about all my inner self. That really affected my last relationship (all of them I am sure), I didn't speak up, so I allowed her to think her bad opinion of me was the truth, which made things even harder , as I desperately "niced" all over the place, until I melted down and ran. Not a successful strategy! I see a lot of my "problem" of life in the nice guy lying through omission, and lack of courage, ... I see a lot of the answer to the problem in the courageous act of being vulnerable enough to be honest...

Creating a fake self or watered down version of self years ago. Making an unconscious vow to procrastinate your true self and truest desires to "feel safe". Only to feel safe, not to be safe. The exchange is you miss out on your dream: country, location, friends, partner hobbies, work, life It's a shit thing to realise how down to the core some of these fearful beliefs go. It's also empowering knowing this now, looking at it and using courage to change it! Feel the fear and do it anyway is just one wise way of saying "live YOUR life fully."

Running with it, big change in mindset, big change in habits. Again, thank you for putting this out there.

I thought I had my morning routine of breakfast+writing+exercise sorted, but it turns out there were some weak spots that needed attention. My takeaways from the Brojo course on Morning Routine… Morning means Morning: I’ve been undermining my priorities and the effectiveness of my routine by being unnecessarily “flexible” about my work hours. Time to toughen up. Being Mindfully Social: The temptation to check my inbox and professional network feed first thing in the morning is strong, but often makes me feel overwhelmed. Park it. No More Auto-Pilot: When I sit down at my desk, I’ve started checking in with my values and challenging myself on why I’m doing what I’m doing each day. Am I moving in the direction of my goals, in line with my values, or just moving? Always Stronger: What is one thing I can do today to strengthen my integrity? I'll be keeping it front of mind until it’s done. Onward.

Hey guys, so I've started filming the new psychopathic confidence course. Here's a little sneak preview, let me know if you think I'm going in the right direction and what you'd like to see in this course