I'm posting this because an interesting question was brought up in another thread. It's a question that some of us men often ask, and that is "should I want more"? This is in reference to the goal of optimized happiness in an LTR. I covered in a previous post that some requirements a woman has for choosing a mate isn't actually them choosing based on "the best" or most optimized of a quality but on meeting a minimal requirement. So for example, height. Women might say "I want a guy who is six feet tall" but really most will fuck a guy (and relationship a guy) who is not 6 feet. It's really a minimal height that they are looking for. And she could be with a man who is 5'7" and that man can be "her best". Really it's a minimal standard that she needs. What makes them hypergamous is that there are 5 needs that they MUST maximize for a guy to be perceived as her Apex Alpha; those being meeting her Sexual, emotional, security, paternity, and legacy needs. A guy can be a greek god who checks all the blocks; but she will perceive the 5'7" man who gives her peak feelings in those 5 categories as "her best" mate option. You can read the other thread for more explanation on that with women. But what about guys? What can we look at to predict if a man is making the "right choice" for maximum happiness in an LTR? First off, men ARE NOT hypergamous. Men ARE NOT hypergamous. Meaning you, with the dick and balls..... YOU ARE NOT HYPERGAMOUS! lol, had to say that because I run into it with new guys to my stuff... they have heard the word and they think guys must be the same as women because of equality and gynocentrism and all that jazz. Nope lol. Men are different. Now, are some men "never satisfied" and always looking for more no matter what they have? Yes. But usually that is an inner game problem (I see this as a problem) that needs to be corrected. Most men aren't always striving for more in new women never to be satisfied ever when it comes to an LTR, provided that the woman checks his boxes (I will get into that later). And thank fucking God lol. What a nightmare that would be.

Hey everyone, I hope you all had a great weekend! I’m 25, and I’ve never taken any martial arts or combat classes before. Lately, I’ve been thinking that it might be a good idea to start, not just to get physically stronger but also to improve my mental strength and discipline. Do you think martial arts can have a positive impact on aspects like business, dating, and overall mental resilience? I’m already in decent shape since I go to the gym regularly, but I feel like adding a combat sport could take things to the next level. I’m particularly interested in starting boxing. What do you think? Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks!

I have material already set to run a coaching program with course material for these three things. Assuming any of these would be affordable and world class, if I launch it next month, which would you be more likely to enroll in? For my mastermind guys you would have access to this with your membership already, but your opinion matters to me. Which would you like to have more material on and extra coaching calls on?

Lol the title isn’t me… I already have one anyway. That is how a lot of guys think and feel so let's look at it. A common thing for guys who are young and haven’t had abundance of dating experiences, or for guys who have gotten out of a marriage or bad relationship and haven’t been with a woman in awhile is to get that empty, sad feeling inside about not having a woman in their lives. This leads to the natural consclusion of a guy “wanting a girlfriend.” This may be the natural conclusion to you reading this but picture this. You have no less than 3 women you have sexual access too at all times who are pretty gorgeous and fun to be with. How would you feel about “needing a girlfriend” if that were the case? You wouldn’t need a girlfriend. You would be having a lot of fun as a single guy. Now, after awhile you might decide that you want a better match for a long term companion, as that would be very natural and the conclusion that most guys with this abundance come too. But that guy doesn’t feel pain and sadness and a stabbing in their gut because they “don’t have a girlfriend.” The guy with abundance knows its just a matter of time and the right person, and they are busy enjoying life while they can WITHOUT the commitment, even if that is what they eventually want. A guy had a question about this, so thought I would share. His question was: “Hey Paul, I remember maybe in one of your livestreams you mentioned it’s not good to feel an emotional pull to have a girlfriend. I’m writing this as I noticed just now I had a similar feeling. Just going shopping and I saw 2 attractive couples talking and having a good time, not really doing anything specific. I felt a pull and some pain and the thought “damn I wish I had a girlfriend”. Why is this not good and what do I do about it?” Here is my answer: Let me clarify. It is ok to want a girlfriend someday or to feel a pull towards a healthy long term relationship. But the pain of "damn I wish I had a girlfriend" comes from scarcity that will fuck up your game.

When do you give a girl commitment? I’m with a young girl that I like pretty good. Don’t want things to end but she is always on my case about seeing other girls when I don’t text back and/or go out. I’m not actually seeing other girls, but I told her to just assume I am. This is causing her to pull back which I don’t want. But I also don’t want to commit too early. Any advice?