A little late posting this but something I think we can all learn from. This isn’t a post to shit on most guys, or to circle jerk about how masculinity is dying in the west blah blah blah. I really wanted to write this to point out how easy it is to quietly lead with power and authority that other people will pick up instantly. A few weekends ago I was out of town at a wedding, college friends of my LTR were tying to knot. My LTR and I have been on and off for about 3.5 years, and while I’ve heard lots of stories, I’ve never met any of her college friends, but I knew it would be a fun weekend. Keep in mind the men I spent the weekend with attending the wedding weren’t your typical losers. My LTR is a doctor, so most in attendance were doctors, nurses, surgeons and other specialists with fancy titles. A couple dorks don’t get me wrong, but I’d consider the majority in attendance high achievers. There weren’t many single people, not even sure if I could name one, and being a nerd in my own right on romance, attraction and human behavior I cant help but people watch at these types of events. Maybe it’s an insecurity, maybe it’s because I’m particularly hard on myself so with no surprise I’d be hard on others, but I’m always observing those around me. One of my biggest findings from the weekend was the LACK of men LEADING their relationships and the interactions with their women. My guess would be that most of these relationships have settled in. Some married, some have kids, and probably natural for most people to get comfortable, but I was a little surprised at the absence of masculine men. Most guys were out of shape, but maybe typical for guys in their late 30s early 40s. The biggest shock for me was the dynamic and framework from these guys and the women they’ve chosen to spend their lives with. There were only a few couples that seems unhealthy making snarky back handed uncomfortable comments with each other, but even the seemingly good relationships seemed to lack any desire.

Hey everyone, I hope you all had a great weekend! I’m 25, and I’ve never taken any martial arts or combat classes before. Lately, I’ve been thinking that it might be a good idea to start, not just to get physically stronger but also to improve my mental strength and discipline. Do you think martial arts can have a positive impact on aspects like business, dating, and overall mental resilience? I’m already in decent shape since I go to the gym regularly, but I feel like adding a combat sport could take things to the next level. I’m particularly interested in starting boxing. What do you think? Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Hey everyone! About four years ago, I started following Apex-Mindset (I was 21, so I guess I got lucky!), and I have to say, adopting the concept of "Outcome Independence" has been a game changer in all aspects of my life—whether it's business, education, or dating. In a nutshell, the idea is that you put in the work and make an effort toward your goals, but you don't let the outcome affect you. While it's definitely tough to put into practice in real life, I've been striving to maintain this mindset over the past few years, and it has helped me immensely. watch this and @Paul Benjamin explains great https://youtu.be/ie5iYEbyTyU?si=OMbUiI-pd9gpABXC

Hey guys, I'd like to hear from some of you who like to sit quietly on the sidelines. You came here for a reason. There are areas in your life that you would like to level up. And that is what we are all here for and what I am here to help you with. That said, You can't level up anything unless you take action. And action is always best accompanied with feedback and accountability. If you sit on the sidelines, you might find yourself in the same spot month in month out without any changes. Why do that right? So share. Give a short intro if you haven't posted yet, and let me know what your struggles are.

Someone asked this in another thread, and I thought my response was worth reposting because I get this question kind of frequently. The internet offers some really bad advice here lol, so I am happy to share what I learned when I transitioned from Government Work to Real Estate (where I went from 0 to building a small team that did about 50 million in sales per year) to Apex Mindset. I won't go over the entire backstory but here was what I learned from experience, helping other successful people make this transition, and from research. The reason the internet offers bad advice in my opinion is because it's not practical. It's all stuff to satisfy the ego of the content creator, or to promote an entrepreneurial coaches program. Whether the people giving the advice are aware or not or giving bad advice intentionally or not. So what is usually suggested is some form of "burn the boats" strategy. This is where you quit your job and you go all in. Usually this involves buying someones "make a million dollars without any work" course, and some such shaming tactics about how you have to grind 32 hours per day or you don't want it bad enough. Guys, if you need a motivational speaker, or someone to shame you into being successful into your business, I would argue that you aren't fucking ready to start a business yet. Motivation is a given, and also only plays a small roll at the end of the day. What matters is taking the right actions, having the discipline to do so, and following a scalable plan. There is a point where you let go of the "paycheck" of working for someone else, and do your business full time. But doing so without a plan is retarded, and it's how must people fail. Cash flow and revenue is what drives a business. So you need to have the revenue to support your success in getting started, and the revenue to carry you into scaling to the next level. You also need the revenue to absorb the failures and mistakes that you will make, as well as the fluctuations in the market.