Reminder To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
"Comparison is the thief of joy" A quote I love, but it's hard to live by especially in a social media driven world where we're constantly seeing everyone else's accomplishments pushed in our faces. After being in the depths of the social industry for a long time, I can at least advise you guys that 99% of it is BS. The idea is to show you how good their lives are in order to make you buy their stuff so they can actually reach that level in life for real. It's sad, but it's the reality of todays world. However, the act of comparison is a non-starter to begin with. When I worked in finance, one of my colleagues (same age as me) had millions in the bank that his Dad gifted him. I at the time had debts and a modest wage of £40-60k per year depending on bonuses. London living costs being sky-high meant that I had around £12k saved per year. I turned to him one day on lunch and said - I'll have to work on a business for 10-15 years to reach where you started. He laughed, I laughed and we moved on. What could I possibly do and how does his scenario impact mine? Truth is, it doesn't. Truth is I'm 32 and there's 18 yr olds currently making more than me per month, living in Dubai printing money via Crypto or Dropshipping in ways I couldn't understand. But, I love my life, I love what I've achieved so far and with my current capabilities and starting point in life, I believe I've done extremely well. In truth, comparing yourself to others is pointless. The only thing that matters is if you're better than last year. If you improve every year, in theory your life gets better and better in a linear fashion which science has shown has a direct increase in happiness. As I'm likely older than you guys, it reminds me of when online gaming arrived. We were all so happy playing career, story and campaign modes, we all focused on our own journey and believed our experience of that game was unique and the only one that mattered. We also all thought we were great at the game. Then online arrived, we all went into the lobbies, met the sweats, realised we were very unprepared and started stressing over K/D or wins vs losses rather than enjoying playing the game like we use to.