Reminder To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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"Comparison is the thief of joy"

A quote I love, but it's hard to live by especially in a social media driven world where we're constantly seeing everyone else's accomplishments pushed in our faces.

After being in the depths of the social industry for a long time, I can at least advise you guys that 99% of it is BS. The idea is to show you how good their lives are in order to make you buy their stuff so they can actually reach that level in life for real. It's sad, but it's the reality of todays world.

However, the act of comparison is a non-starter to begin with. When I worked in finance, one of my colleagues (same age as me) had millions in the bank that his Dad gifted him. I at the time had debts and a modest wage of £40-60k per year depending on bonuses. London living costs being sky-high meant that I had around £12k saved per year. I turned to him one day on lunch and said - I'll have to work on a business for 10-15 years to reach where you started. He laughed, I laughed and we moved on. What could I possibly do and how does his scenario impact mine?

Truth is, it doesn't. Truth is I'm 32 and there's 18 yr olds currently making more than me per month, living in Dubai printing money via Crypto or Dropshipping in ways I couldn't understand. But, I love my life, I love what I've achieved so far and with my current capabilities and starting point in life, I believe I've done extremely well.

In truth, comparing yourself to others is pointless. The only thing that matters is if you're better than last year. If you improve every year, in theory your life gets better and better in a linear fashion which science has shown has a direct increase in happiness.

As I'm likely older than you guys, it reminds me of when online gaming arrived. We were all so happy playing career, story and campaign modes, we all focused on our own journey and believed our experience of that game was unique and the only one that mattered. We also all thought we were great at the game. Then online arrived, we all went into the lobbies, met the sweats, realised we were very unprepared and started stressing over K/D or wins vs losses rather than enjoying playing the game like we use to.

Life has become very similar. Social media has become a measuring stick for life progress and accomplishments. Rather than focusing on our own year on year progress, we're making sure we're top of the leaderboard which is destroying the enjoyment of the game that we call life.

My first year of actual business I made £117k (29-30 Top 5% earner)

2nd year £238k (30-31 Top 1% earner)

3rd year £800k and counting (31-32 Top 0.1% earner)

In 2025 I'd like to do a few million

I've had rude awakenings with tax, I've made bad decisions and recorrected them, I've had business partners screw me and I've missed every meme coin easy win this year. Truth is, I have 3-5 things I'm focused on that I have chosen. They're mine, this journey is mine, my progression is great in my opinion. 4 years ago today I was in a garage with 3 coats about 20% through my fitness journey wearing old clothes and on a no sex streak of 2 years.

I feel as though 2025 me is the most qualified, intelligent, prepared, knowledgable, wealthiest, best shape and so on version of me ever. If in 2025 that same man improves further then great I'm on the right path. That's all I'm focused on, beating me from 2024 because I know that's something I personally can do since I've just done it. If I can add another 20% effort, deploy better methods, I've hired 8 new people for 2025 who are better than me in their respective fields, then I'll likely be better than 2024 Kris. At the end of the day this is the entire game, keep beating your previous best like a ghost car on a racing game, the good old days!

Keep learning guys, keep improving, focus on you and in 3,5,10 years or maybe more, it'll all click and you'll see hockey stick growth. Who's to say the 22 yr old millionaire doesn't lose it all in 10 years and you're richer than ever? It doesn't matter because none of this impacts you, but it's all about perspective of ones whole life, not who makes the most today or who bought a house first, it's such a fickle way of living and measuring oneself.

Beat your PB year on year, focus on your own growth, stay patient. I'd rather go at my pace and still be winning in 20 years that rush everything in 2025 in order to keep up with the early pacemakers.

Kris

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