Musings on stages of growth · Brojo: The Integrity Army

Musings on stages of growth

I just watched the "what next" blog video. Hmmmmm... hits me that one of the things I have always wondered is why I could not seem to practice all the self help, motivation, good stuff I learned in books and trainings. I have wondered if it is my ADHD, brain damage from my drinking days? (counter evidence exists to the second, I could never really apply and grow learnings as a kid.... unless I was really interested and it had to do with art, psychology, or words, so ADHD seems more plausible). I think after watching the vid, that (and this links to my last 5 years learning about trauma) I just never had a safe base..... I had not ever had a secure or safe base. I was born into chaos and violence and separation, and I never was given by my care givers a secure base level security to move out from. Make some sense to me of a life time issue!!!

I like the way the vid works with all the categories and frames of growth we are using in Brojo, and I am well familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs, so it makes sense how I need my finances in order to be able to do the higher level courage and meaning work ... the fact is I do not, and that gives me pause for thought !..... I realise I need to create a base, but I am finally making progress in my courage and bravery, so I will keep at that too,,,,, I won't put it all on hold until I sort my home and money, but I see I need to pay more attention to my foundation. I did almost have a foundation 5 years ago, then I had a 2 year horrific illness and lost my job, my home, my partner of the time, and have ended up broke and flatting at 57,,,

I recognise there is work here for me to do, and I am going to step back a bit to pay attention to foundational levels, as well as moving forward in growing myself,

As well as Maslow's hierarchy of needs, Erickson's stage theory is a frame work that has helped me.... I realised when I first read that, that I never progressed in the developmental tasks beyond child hood, or at best adolescence,,.... and I have thought about it a lot, and how it frames the growing up, individuating process as well as Maslow, just in a more step by step guided manner.... again, I see this in the video ,.... Thanks for posting this Dan, I keep finding I am getting piece by piece a fully rounded "growing up" process here !

https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-you-should-focus-on-next/

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