I wanted to give you guys a couple of tips for dealing with selfish people. First and foremost, you have to be clear what selfish means. If somebody is taking care of their own needs, without harming others, that is not selfishness. If somebody is not being able to read your mind, guess what you want, or accommodate you, they're not being selfish either. Selfish people go for what they want, but they also harm others on the way knowingly. Okay? So, even if you gave them feedback that they're being harmful, they just keep doing it. You know, that “F*ck you. I do what I want” attitude. That's selfishness, and there is generally a pattern of this. If you're sure that’s what they’re doing, first give them the benefit of the doubt and assume that they don't know that they're doing this. So, confront them on it. Say, “Look when you do this, it harms me. Is there a way of doing it where you don't harm me?” If they still keep doing it, just cut them out of your life and go find someone who's not like that.

I know my courage and bravery have been showing up on their own since commtiting to Brojo.... and I know I have consciously, at timers, courted them .... I think I made some notes of things to show this in behavioral terms... but, I cannot recall the others right now.. But right now, I want to recorded yesterdays win.... I did an MRI scan ! Which may not sound a lot to some, but I am intensely claustrophobic (and have a fear of heights, I have flown once in the last 20 years)... I had actully been in an MRI 2 times before, but that was in my 2 year illness, when I was a walking skeleton (I barely fit in an MRI tube now days !) and I was so out of it in agony, and full of drugs, I did not really notice the procedures .... I fricken noticed it yesterday ! all 45 minutes(felt like 2or 3 hours!) of it.... but, after 1 false start and a panic, .. I got back in and coped with the cascade of passing emotions and sensations , and the bloody noise it made! So, that's quite a win for me !

Hey guys, the video, audio and chat box recordings are now available in the Dropbox folder for last night's session. Big thanks to @Albert Nel for allowing us to dive into the problem of allowing your self worth to be affected by other people's negative emotional reactions, i.e. caring what people think of you. Here's the link to the recording archive - the password is the same as the one for the call (sent to you via email): https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fo/sjyxzwxxd4t7agg833qoa/ABfgqEEth9lLY_OelSdLw5k?rlkey=82mp4fludv3gshn2wukgjts1u&st=l3c6cv00&dl=0 And the extra resources we discussed: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/how-to-manage-narcissists-when-they-explode-the-extinction-tactic/ https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/podcast/blood-in-the-water-why-you-get-bullied-and-how-to-prevent-it/ https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/podcast/advice-from-a-psychopath-how-to-stop-caring-what-others-think-of-you/ https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/why-you-should-never-apologise/

Congrats to our winners this month! 1st place gets a free coaching session with me - @Donelle McKinley 2nd place gets a free month in the Nice Guy Brotherhood - @Aaron Frater 3rd place gets the course of their choice for free - @Anthony Tadros Well done guys, I'll be in touch shortly with details on how to claim your prizes. Points reset for September, let's keep the good times rolling!

Hey guys. Great to finally be here. I'm Albert from South Africa. Currently working on my self-talk. I feel like I'm in a weird space the last few months where my self-talk and by extension confidence has become fragile. I'd like to feel calmer and more grounded again. One of the best resources I can recommend is The Work by Byron Katie. If you ever have any issues with another person, I find The Work to be deeply efficient and powerful. https://thework.com/part-three/ Anyway, great to see you all here and hope you grow together.