I’m Nick ! I live in Wisconsin and I am hoping to change from a boy to a man. I am 19 years old and for my entire life have been an entrepreneur, I recently just purchased a house to support my girlfriend and our daughter (Not Biological father) we are expecting another one in a month and I am really nervous that if I don't make change I will damage my daughter, son and make my partners life miserable. I have struggled with family relationships my entire life and I am hoping to gain from this group some perspective on how to be a more thoughtful partner and parent. I want to get these 3 things from the community: 1.  Accountability outside of the shame I feel for the things I don't know I should be doing 2.  A new perspective from people that have more experience than me 3. Changing from a boy to a man in a healthy way that makes me feel good about how far I have come in my life. Some things that my partner fell in love with me for: 1.  How patient I was with her daughter and her. 2.  That I was a good listener 3. That I was thoughtful

My name is Matt and I was referred here by Andrew Roberts! My wife always makes me lunch when I come home from work so I can take a second to change focus

Hi, I’m Jes! I live in Sandy, Utah and I am excited to join this community and better understand my partner’s mental load. I want to get these 3 things from the community: A better capacity to read my partner's emotions. Getting rid of bias during an argument. Being able to outlay better and more specific plans to achieve goals in common with my partner. Some things that my partner fell in love with me for: 1. I embraced the responsibility of engaging in a life-long relationship. 2. I love God probably more than I love her 3. I make her laugh with nonsense And, by the way, I'm glad that Andy brought me here!

I’m Danny, I’ve appreciated Zach’s reels for a while and am jazzed to have a community of other guys who care and are trying to do better for their partners. Learned about mental load when my wife shared the infamous “You Should’ve Asked” comic years ago. Since then It’s been a continuous learning journey that I’m still on. And now that we have a baby daughter it’s more important than ever that we share the load, especially as we both have historically been quite career-driven. Looking forward to it!

My name is Zach, married 9 years, together almost 11, living in Central MA, with one 3 year old. This work and coaching is what I do full time. What I hope to gain from this community is building a safe space for guys that want to learn to ask questions and improve their understanding of the mental load which many women have trusted in me to teach to the men in their lives