While this has slowed down in recent months as our kiddos growth has greatly decreased in speed compared to the first year it is still a big one. Over that first year she - Was on a constant hunt for deals on the next size up! Sitting in bed, scrolling through some clothes, car ride? Scrolling through clothes and whatnot - Closely monitored and checked in on the fit as she had a consistent concern of making sure the clothes fit just right and were not too tight - This included taking the time to send me the carts of items to cross check and make sure that I liked it all too! Meaning before she ordered or checked out she was taking the time to pump the brakes, take a few more mental steps and make sure i love it too! - When it came time to unload all of these items and list them for sale, she spearheaded it. Even when I asked why i couldn’t she wanted to make sure it was done properly. (one of the few times very early in having a kid that I actually saw the mental load she was trying to take on and I made sure i was a part of this)

Hi, I'm new here but I just want to be better. My wife manages all the schedules for her me our son and her mom who lives with us. I just started working 3rd shift as a diesel tech and things have gotten harder to manage in some ways and easier in others. But my wife is constantly checking in on me and her mom making sure our son got to school and got picked up or taken to his activitys, all as she manages a retail store. It's weighing hard on her and the household chores are not being done in a timely manner I went through and cleaned the house tip to tail and plan on keeping up with it now that we have had a chat about that part of the mental load but I know there's more I can do. I just don't know where to start

It was a celebration of her parents' birthday (yes, they share the same birthday, 4 yrs apart). My wife carried the mental load of: 1) Making sure they had a cake they liked. She baked it. 2) Making sure her brother not only remembered their birthday, but had to follow up to make sure he followed up on on making the dinner reservation he agreed to. 3) Made sure we (meaning me) didn't forget to stop to pick up the balloon arrangement (she ordered in advance) on the way to the celebration. 4) Kept me on schedule with household chores and errands throughout the day to ensure we were ready to leave for the celebration on time. 5) Made sure we fed the dog early, because we had to leave before her normal dinner time. 6) Had to pick out appropriate outfit 7) Had to make sure whatever I picked out, was appropriate and coordinated with her. 8) Made sure seating arrangements were handled so that her parents could sit next to their grandkids (her niece and nephew) like she knows her mom and dad enjoy. 9) Scoped out the menu, so she could ease her mom's anxiety of being overwhelmed when choosing what to eat when dining out. 10) Make sure her brother remembered to pick up...and bring...his gifts and card. 11) Went out of her way to make sure everyone enjoyed themselves at the dinner...AND made sure the restaurant staffed as acknowledged and felt appreciated. There is probably so much more that occurred that I didn't notice. And she did all of this while being sick.