I’m grateful for Katie taking on the emotional labor of: - Snuggling our daughter when she needed some extra comfort before she fell asleep last night. We usually set a boundary around constant requests for attention after we put the kids to bed (“You’ve already had a drink, a story, a hug/kiss goodnight, and gone to the potty—I can’t wait to do those things all again in the morning”). However, Katie recognized an emotional need and knew when care was more important than holding a boundary. - Giving feedback by patiently requesting for me to do a task differently, even though it’s something she’s asked before. - Tag teaming on baths when it was starting to get overwhelming, and our oldest was over-tired and melting down. - Externally processing through a situation with in-laws that has been previously frustrating. But she approached it with steadiness and care.

Today I’m grateful Katie took on the emotional load of: - Pausing mid-sentence this morning to wait for me to stop spacing out. - Communicating her needs in the wake of losing someone—it’s very hard thing to speak into fit y - Telling me later in the day about someone that I did that bothered he

I am grateful for Katie taking on the emotional load of… - Receiving/responding to updates about her grandpa who is very sick at the moment. - Maintaining patience amidst lots of emotions this week. - Waiting for news on her phone but still being present. - Spending 1:1 time with our daughter even though our daughter has been pushing boundaries with her a lot.

Thankful Sarah did the following emotional labor - Got my son’s attention and said “hey watch this” and touched me on the back and said I love you. I don’t think he’s ever seen that and felt that emotional labor touching all of us - Comforted me when she could tell I was hurt about a nasty interaction with my dad. Also allowed me time to process before asking me to do anything else - Validated and listened to me vent about this guy who was just at our house and used me as an excuse for cheating on his wife. I was feeling hurt a lot today and gonna use that emotional labor comfort for 2 points - Complimented me for doing some tasks that are normally thankless and just my job to get done, but she knows that rewarding me with positive reinforcement makes me feel good

I’m grateful Katie took on the emotional labor of: - Calming our son down when he was upset about her leaving him behind at home with me this evening to hang out with her friend. - Planning a date with him tomorrow to go somewhere with him that he likes. - Conveying details about her grandparents who are sick, despite the sadness it causes to think about them failing in health. - Choosing a positive outlook about a friend’s decision that kind of undid some mental labor she’d already done, and taking the view it will save her some time and effort later this month not to have to follow up on it. This led to a relatively chill evening.