How To Deal With Ungrateful People · Brojo: The Integrity Army

How To Deal With Ungrateful People

I did a post a while back about a meme that has been going around. It was about people being tired of being good to people who are ungrateful.

Whatever I said at the time was a little controversial, I guess. A lot of people got upset. I was basically saying, “Well, if you're only doing a good deed to get gratitude, then you're actually people-pleasing, so you're not really being a good person.

One of the common complaints I got was this: “But some people are just ungrateful and I’m sick of it. You have to take into account that they're just not giving back, and they're not respecting you.”

All these comments make me raise the question: “Why do you KEEP giving to them?”

You could be giving to 8 billion people in the world. You could, at least, be giving to the few dozen or 100 that live in your area. Why do you keep giving to somebody who's ungrateful?

That's a you problem, not a them problem.

The first time they’re were ungrateful, you didn't see that coming. The second time you already knew they were like this, so why aren't you refocusing on someone who reciprocates?

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