A neat trick for getting back out there...
Guys often ask me "How do I get back out in the dating market. I broke up with my (wife/girlfriend) of (blank years) and wanting to start dating again, but I get unsure of myself when it comes to approaching and opening women...." Or some version of this question. Here is kind of a neat trick for you to try. You are going to let your cognitive biases work to an advantage here. I remember back in my much younger days how it always used to annoy me that a few of my friends who were players would always think that every girl wants to fuck them. Even when it was completely irrational and untrue. Yet, they were the ones getting pussy during a time when I was absolutely not and still figuring it out. The irrational self confidence they had carried over into their game. They assumed girls wanted to fuck them, so they approached women confidently and with that frame. They got rejected like anyone does but ignored those rejections, and yet when they got laid they used that to confirm their irrational bias that every girl wanted them. But it worked! There is a way in which you can create a bias that is actually a lot less irrational, and will boost your self confidence. What I want you to do is the entry level pick up activity of just talking to strangers. Make social connections with strangers and graduate to hot girls. So have small conversations with hot girls, and gauge their reactions. Then don't close them or take it any further (intentionally). This does a number of things that is actually genius. One is you take the pressure off of yourself when you know you aren't going to close or take it anywhere. This almost eliminates any rejection fear and boosts your confidence. Two is your vibe will be chill. The girl will sense that you aren't trying to get anything from her. This will increase your perception of value. She will be more interested. You will get a lot of girls who will show indicators of interest. With any girl you can gauge after a single conversation whether or not they would want to fuck you on a scale of like 0-100.