Someone asked about this in a discussion and I thought it would be worth a repost and it's own thread. The process of challenging schema's (schema is a word for Subconscious beliefs. These are beliefs you have that drive your behavior, and often you are not aware of what these beliefs are) is in Alpha Mindset. The chapter on challenging anxiety. I'll give you the synopsis here in steps: 1. Take a look at something you are failing at or need to change. Let's say it's getting started in updating your resume and seeking new employment. If your action plan is simple and you are just not doing it and you seem to be self sabotaging, then we need to assume that something is wrong with your inner game. Assume that doing this represents a threat or pain or fear or something you are trying to avoid. 2. So start asking yourself questions, and take notes or journal them. What does updating the resume and seeking employment mean to you? what does it represent? what could you be afraid of? Meditate and brainstorm these types of questions 3. These questions will uncover subconscious beliefs (schemas) in regards to seeking new employment. Put those into a clear and concise statement. So maybe you might write a few statements like: "New employment highlights that I have been a failure at my current job" "Updating the resume and seeking new employment seems like a tedious waste of time." "I am comfortable in my job and I am nervous about change" 4. Now that you have put words to schema's and made yourself conscious of what has been in your subconscious, it is time to challenge these ideas. 5. Take a statement, like "New employment highlights that I have been a failure", and write all the ways that statement might seem true. Basically, Argue FOR the schema first. So that might look like.... "I picked a job that ended up being a dead end, and I wasted 5 years of my life there making less money then I should have. I've grown comfortable with it not being very challenging, but now I am financially hindered. And leaving this job means starting from scratch, and I have failed and found myself in a dead in job so what if I make the same mistake except with a new employer that is even worse?"

I covered this in an answer to someones question but it is worth a seperate post. I'll try not to get into the weeds too hard here. A common thing I have noticed over the past few years are higher number of normal people (rather then clinically diagnosed people) feeling a lack of excitement and motivation. They can feel this way about life in general, or they can feel this way about their relationships. This is a form of depression, or at least a depressive state. There are a lot of variables here and reasons you might be dealing with this, and getting into all those possibilities would take an entire book. If you struggle with this DM me and we'll maybe do a session to unpack your specific situation and action plan. That said, I think if I am to paint this with a broad brush, what I am finding is that in Western Countries we have a higher level of safety and security then we have ever had in our history, along with easy access to dopamine inducing activities (social media, porn, video games, drugs, etc). This socio-economic stability coupled with easy access to dopamine inducing stuff has caused this complacency, apathy, and dissatisfaction that leads to this overall feeling of a lack of excitement. Many guys find themselves in this situation. Here is the way out of it. First, is make sure you are taking care of the 8 core basics that I have talked about before (Mastermind guys, that's in your NBC course material). You can fiind these listed in the accountability sheets in the classroom, but they are Sleep, Exercise/activity, diet, sunlight, social connection, mindset (gratitude and intention), environment, and goals. If you don't at least 7/10 optimize these daily, you are at risk of becoming more depressive or anxious and unhappy. Period. But once the easy stuff is taken care of, here are 5 things to look at next. This is especially true in your relationships. If there is too much stability in your relationships believe it or not they will become dull or boring. If there is too much drama then they consume your life and drain your soul. So the key is having a healthy balance of these 5 things. When I say "balance" I don't mean equal, I mean ratio, if that makes sense.