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Q+A session moved to Wed
Hey winners of last months leaderboard, I've had to move the Q+A backa couple days, cheers
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@Slava K I find it easy to be subservient in a work place (and in an intimate relationship context too). It's a life time fawn response. I prefer to just go along with the other, and not have to assrt myself. Its good to be reminded of this. I haven't had a trigger in this manner for a while, except for the university lecturer I had dealings with recently It will be interesting (and maybe feel odd and new) to see if next time I get that trigger how I react since a couple of months doing this work.
Putting On High-Risk Trades
I'm both a long term and short term investor in equities. I've done well and nothing to complain about in that department. However, I didn't know what an emotional flashback was, till recently. I've discovered a pattern of mine. Right after, I've done well and everything is great. I'll self sabotage and enter into risky transactions. And often give back part of the profits I've had made earlier. There's no rational reason, except that I enter into flashback mode and refeel the emotional distress constantly while the transaction's loss is getting bigger and bigger. Sometime, this is over 2-4 weeks. Actually, when the transaction is profitable, I don't take the profits. While, I let the losses get bigger. Which then trigger the inner critic's insulting and shame, guild invoking dialogue. Then enters toxic shame and spoils the rest of the day. Its like being struck in a time-loop. Have been doing this self-punishing for a few months now. Shows there's more healing to be done. And I'm struck in the same place for several years now. I also realize I have double binds in important areas of my life due not taking bold decisions and talking honestly.
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New comment 9m ago
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@Daniel Munro I have read half that book! It's god stuff. I read Gay Hendricks book "self love" years ago, but wasn't ready for it. Self sabotage is familiar to me. In different contexts, I have similar self defeating patterns that want me to fuk things up to get a "validation of uselessness" hit.
30 Day Social Confidence
I am from Toronto (close enough) Canada. I am joining this 30 day challenge because I struggle in social environments, especially if I'm new to the group. For years I feel that I have been on the outside looking in and not been able to penetrate the inner circles. I find myself looking at peoples backs. I hope to be able to enter any room and have the confidence to walk up to anyone and initiate a conversation. Right now my biggest challenge is overcoming the belief that I don't have anything intelligent or relevant to contribute.
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New comment 17m ago
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@Kent Curry Well put. It's the interactions, discusions, communications amongst the other people here. The learnings from Dan's work are expanded, cemented, fleshed out in the discussions.
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@Daniel Munro Not alone at all. I lived my life that way for so, so, long. I would often walk up to the door of a party or event, and feel so like a freak abndcsobterrufued, I turned and walked away. Even when I was younger, and drank lots and took lots of drugs, I still would freak out and run. It's taken years to get a little better, and the concerted effort I am making since joining up Brojo is helping. Your in the company of others who know these problems and are all working to recover and grow.
Psychopathic Confidence coming soon!
I have finished filming for the new course Psychopathic Confidence :) Got some editing to do, and then the first release will go to the Brotherhood members for free. Once I have their feedback, the paid version will be made available. Should be done by end of November!
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Psychopathic Confidence coming soon!
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@Daniel Munro I look forward to watch in this!.. Courage has been my touch stone word for my Brojo practice...but confidence is equally important. I've not much, in the past, considered how to measure intangible like confidence, joy, etc. Listening more and more of your pod casts, I see how you use measure often, and it inspires (and daunts - I struggle to use numbers) me. Self measurement as a key part of self improvement seems logical. I'm fittiningvbits of this into my daily (most days any ways) reflection. I'm using the ideas from the journaling pod cast too. More small steps. I'm working in stabalisung and routinising my morning and evening practices. Mixed success so far, but getting better.....
The Risk Of Standing Out From The Crowd
Daily Dose of Integrity I am from New Zealand and, for the longest time, I wondered why does New Zealand have this weird thing where anybody trying to stand out, do well, and have their own back, gets cut down to size, usually by the people closest to them, the people who should be supporting them? This is not unique to New Zealand. My theory is that what we're seeing is a type of herd behaviour. If you zoom out and you look at the human race as just being a herd of animals, a herd of mammals, you will notice that the outliers—people who stand out from the rest—are like those points on the graph that don't line up with the median line. They're a risk to the herd. They're the ones who create a risk of a coup—these are the ones who could take over leadership. They're the ones who challenge what is and represent a risk to the status quo—they might set a new trend and change things. They represent a risk—just in that they're different. All the cognitive biases that lead to stereotyping and racism are at play here as well: people have the same reaction to somebody who's different. We just think “Threat!”, straight away. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/v8xDJ2Cj7YA
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New comment 1d ago
The Risk Of Standing Out From The Crowd
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@Donelle McKinley Woo hoo!.. I enjoy hearing when people have their adventures set, and ready to fly off! Where too first? I really like what you say about confidence and variety! I am a New Zealand era too, and I know this tall poppy thing well. I know in my childhood, one of the biggest problems was lack of variety. No aunts, uncles, cousins, no friends in neighbourhood, no overseas trips, not many books, no sport, no religion, etc....so my perspective was limited by limited experience. I can see how that, pre Internet, was the New Zealand I grew up in. Personal courage, conviction, and vision, seem a good antidote to heard mentality!
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Aaron Frater
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I am nearly 60. I am an artists, and was an art teacher. I have been in recovery a long time. I have struggled with CPTSD, ADHD for ever.

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