Once upon a time, there was a person named Jeffery. He wasn’t buried until he passed away when he lived til an old age of 80, but he was already dead around 22, when he graduated college. This isn’t a new concept, but the majority still fall victim to it. The people I grew up with in high school are graduating college this year. I personally see the ‘cool kids’ who had a great social life in high school and college graduating. Most of them out of shape, the hot girls now having double chins, or rounding out. Most of them with limited goals and aspirations. (Shout out to the late bloomers who weren’t the ‘cool kids’ and are now absolute killers.) For this post by default, I categorize the ‘cool kids’ as the average Joe; average job, average salary, average experiences, average aspirations, average wife, etc.. To some that’s just fine, average seems to be more but in all of that ‘averageness’ and the point of the quote is.. The majority of these people WILL NOT truly experience life to its fullest extent. They WILL NOT leave a legacy behind that will last for more than one generation. They WILL NOT go after their dreams as they said when they were a kid. “I want to be an astronaut, I want to be a doctor”. In reality they’re making 70k a year, and just a number to a company that doesn’t care about them. And that’s their fault. And if that’s the life they want to live that’s ok. It’s easy for me to say this right now because I admit, I am in a similar position, but do not underestimate me as I am on a different path and mission. I’ve already helped young men on a micro level. I am an Eagle Scout. I was the senior patriot leader of my troop (kind of like the president, I was elected for that position by our members) I returned to my troop after many years because my brother recently was receiving his Eagle Scout as well (mama ain’t raise no bitch). 1 I wanted to be there to support him because that is important, 2 I was doing his Eagle charge (iykyk). But one thing I wasn’t expecting was for some of the young men to remember me..

Myself :) A lot of people have mentioned that I either look good (irl compliments from girls either randomly / cold approach from them, on dates, etc), other people, and more. One thing they FAILED to realize, and you do to is I’ve spent HUNDREDS of hours learning about fashion on YouTube, instagram, and people irl. I’ve spent DAYS trying on clothes at home, seeing what outfit looks good and at the mall trying new things on. I’ve spent THOUSANDS of dollars buying clothes. Wasting hundreds because the clothes suck, but finding gems while doing so. You can’t have a great outfit if you can’t go through bad ones. So, just a reminder that I’ve been learning fashion for FOUR YEARS. I used to obsess over fashion, teaching myself. That is why I get these compliments and my aesthetic is often noticed. I still am learning, but I am in a great position.

I had a very good ‘ex’. This was the girl who taught me a lot about myself, relationship dynamics, and for the sake of this post, traditional roles in a relationship. She was born in Iran, whole family habib or habibti’s. Her culture is as traditional and conservative as a man could dream for. Who doesn’t want a traditionally feminine women? Most, but most cannot handle it and underestimate the responsibility that comes with her. Most, but most aren’t traditionally masculine. I’ve lived in the United States my whole life. Never been outside of the country. The closest dose of traditional values is my full blooded Italian mother and her family. My dad and his dad are the only traditionally masculine men I know, additionally. With traditionally masculine men, they were always working. You’re probably thinking, how does this have to do with my ex? Patience if you want the full value of this passage. We’re getting there. I think this unintentionally allowed me to NOT fully inherit the masculine traits from them because they were working so much (more of the man and woman polarity traits. ex: pay for dinner, give your shirt to someone in need, always let women (even random women) out of the elevator first). Because with my ex, later in our relationship, she validly pointed out many flaws. One thing I remember her saying was something about how my dad was a gentleman / traditional and I wasn’t. She couldn’t even be mad how my family raised me because they are not like me in the context of mannerisms. And for me to want a traditional women, she pointed out that I had to be traditional man to demand such thing from her (fair point). I take what she said with a grain of salt because she acted on an overwhelming emotion. My mantra “stay with her intensity to a degree”. But, extrapolating what her motive and intentions were behind her telling me that, she has a point. Andrew Tate mentioned how if his daughter(s) were to date a man, the man would have to fully take care of that woman. Therefore, Andrew Tate would stop funding his daughters life, and stop taking care of his daughter, because that is now the boyfriend’s responsibility. Tate allocated his responsibility over to the boyfriend of his daughter(s). Causing Tate‘s daughter to choose wisely on who she dates. Tate has a Top 0.01% lifestyle btw. Infinite money, infinite everything. Smart. If we think about wedding ceremonies, that is exactly what is happening. The father is handing over his daughter to the husband, including every responsibility that comes with her (financially, spiritually, etc).

I guess it is true, that “you can’t win them all.” Even if you try your hardest. But one thing is for certain, you can fight hard as hell trying to. I had a conversation just now, with a complete stranger. Well, by complete, I mean we are in a community together and we haven’t spoken until now. I was contemplating having a convo with him, but I’m glad I did. Anyways, he recited something that I previously beat him at. We hadn’t spoke about it, and hell, I didn’t even know I beat him until now. He said “It’s all fair game in the competitive world. Weren’t you the one who did X? I was doing X but I hesitated. You beat me. I can’t even be mad it wasnt meant to be”. Salutations to him. I could break that down into so many different avenues. The avenue I’m taking it down is that he mentioned how he will do his best, and even fail, just like you, just like me. BUT sometimes you succeed. Idealistically, the better and more experienced you get, the less you loose and the more grandiose you win. But until then, I guess everyone “eats”, sometimes.

One’s man’s crazy is another man’s genius. How can this be?