Okay so I broke up with my long-term gf back in February to focus on my own career/business goals but at the same time I’ve been dating this woman ever since, we live 2 hours from each other so only see each other once in a while and are NOT in a committed relationship… She is very much on the same page as me in terms of make money online, personal brand, remote high ticket sales etc. and has actually supported me as I progressed from dm setter-phone SDR-closer and growth operator in these last 8 months. The question is where do I go from here, if I want I could easily fall in love with this girl, travel the world and live my lifestyle but… I have almost stupidly big ambitions. Do you think she will get in the way or is this something I have to decide for myself? -Joe Up and coming G

Little half-blog for you guys. In this modern era of social snippets you’ve likely seen guys being “secretly filmed” as they walk down the road and have women look at them. This whole narrative is such a waste of time. Women worth anything aren’t basing their attraction off looks. They’re basing it off masculinity, character, ability to provide. “So why are these women looking at the men”? Because people like to look at attractive people! The amount of women I’ve dated who genuinely couldn’t care about looks, usually the hottest women too. They’ll all say the same thing, I look at a handsome guy and think he’s handsome, then I move on with my day and forget about him. How sad is this when you really think about it. You have all of these guys perceiving a look from a woman as some sort of accomplishment, when in reality she’s forgotten about him and will openly admit she looked more out of curiosity/or as part of an intrigue for beauty. Sorry to break it to you, but all women do the same to women. It’s nothing special. I’ve seen women check women out and then say I have a girl crush I love her outfit. Men are out here overthinking and overhyping “someone looking at them”. Nothing was accomplished, she’s simply looked, walked past and disappeared. Did you sleep with her, did she become your GF or Wife? If no then nothing matters. This “how many girls can look at me” game and collecting phone numbers is the biggest waste of time and feminine. The important part for men is being a man, having a life pre-built that women want to be a part of and displaying that value. This gets actual results. There’s a big difference between He’s handsome and I want to sleep with him Men are operating like women in this era. They’re getting called beautiful and calling it a good day. Men are action based, you want results. Drop the vanity metrics and focus on the game after the game, 200 looks, 100 “he’s hot” and 20 numbers still means nothing until you know what to do and how to build genuine attraction. Being attractive is about 5% of the game from my experience

This upcoming week I am going to cold approach two cute girls in college and hopefully ask them out on a date. I am a naturally confident guy, but when it comes to girls I get shy sometimes. I plan two ask these two cute girls that go to my college on a coffee date. this week. Do any of you guys have any advice on how I should approach this?

I'm Janardana 19. I go to university and I'm currently building my youtube business. I've been going to the gym for 2,5 years and I've been on self improvement for 3 years. I live in Indonesia (southeast asia). Dating scene here is pretty easy, you got the money you'll get girls, the majority of female don't see fitness, self education, and business as good things. I think most people here are working 9-5 job and i guess 1% of population are entrepreneurs. I need your advice on dating, I'm not in rush, If you're 30+ give me some advice.

The more you’re that guy she feels is just a little bit “too good” for her, the more she’ll respect you. Attraction isn’t about handing over your worth on a silver platter; it’s about making her work to feel she deserves you. Women get bored when they think they’ve “got you”—so keep a bit of mystery, a bit of distance, and stay just a notch out of her league. She needs that edge to keep chasing. 1. Don’t Show Your Cards Right Away Overeager guys crash and burn. Women don’t want a man they can immediately predict or control. Give her just enough to stay interested but keep a good chunk of yourself off the table. Let her earn her place. Your time, your approval—these aren’t things she gets without effort. If she’s uncertain, you stay on her mind longer. 2. Body Language That Speaks Confidence Stop fidgeting for her approval. Men who signal they’re the prize move with calm authority, not desperation. Don’t overdo the eye contact, touch, or compliments—let her come to you. Make her feel like she’s got competition, even if it’s in her head. Don’t give her a free pass to be the center of your world. 3. Keep Your Standards High—Make Her Work for It Women value what they earn, and the same goes for attention and approval. If you’re too easily impressed, you drop your value. She’ll chase when she feels you’re a high-standard man who isn’t won over by just anyone. Stay discerning, and she’ll feel the need to step up. 4. Drop the Routine, Drop the Predictability Predictability is poison. Switch it up, leave some gaps. If you’re always texting, calling, or free every weekend, you’ve made her the sun of your universe. Let her wonder. Make her reach out, let her experience your absence. When she can’t be certain, she’ll value the times you are there. 5. Treat Her Well, But Don’t Bow Down There’s a difference between being kind and being soft. Set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say “no.” Women respect men who respect themselves more than anyone else. Give her kindness, but keep self-respect at the forefront.