My wife holds the mental load of finding all the medical needs of our kids. I have 2 boys that have ADHD and my youngest (6 years old) is on top of this he is struggling with other behavioral issues. So my wife spends a lot of time trying find places that take our insurance, getting referrals from our pediatrician. We are having him see a occupational therapist, which my wife called around to find. She is also getting him into see a child psychiatrist which when talking to her about it it is really hard to get into. She also is the one who takes him to all of these appointments and researches techniques and strategies on diagnosis it her self to figure out questions and the right path for him medically to get him into. She also is a working mom that has a job that is demanding on her.