Day 11 - Family Visit Edition · Mental Load Basics

Day 11 - Family Visit Edition

My family lives in another state so we don't get to see them too often. When we do make the ~5 hour drive to see them, I often times devolve into planning to visiting them the way I did before my fiancee came into the picture. This meant I would assume I was staying at my parents house in my old room, I'd find stuff to do with my friends once I got there (no pre-planning) and the activities would largely be based around talking about the past and watching tv. None of this works well with my fiancee, who is allergic to my parents' cats, wants to go out and see and do things, and has a harder time socializing with my friends from home because she wasnt there for all the in-jokes and stories of the past. So she ends up having to worry about where we can stay, what she can plan so she isn't bored, how we can socialize with my family outside of their house, and what she's going to talk about with my friends. I have done better with this more recently but until I show the consistency of thinking about all those things, she still has a bit of dread about these trips.

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