Letting her know you're seeing other girls

At what point in dating do you share that you're seeing other women? I usually tell girls first because I figured they would want to know before doing anything with me, and it has worked fine. But with the last 2 girls I've seen, we've moved so fast that it came out only after a first sexual encounter so to say. Their discomfort was totally felt and I felt bad afterwards and will tell them from now on before in a smooth statement of fact way.

I'm also curious, Paul, how I could handle potential great girls that aren't interested in seeing a guy that sees more women. Maybe its an unneccessary question since it would mean I have to fold my boundaries or standards-, which are that I don't give my commitment to anyone before sex unless she would be a virgin. (Of course with other boxes checked).

Seeing one girl now that so far seems to be pretty unexperienced or selective, I imagine that those types of girls would be less accepting of being a plate. It's kind of a dubbleedged sword, on one hand, I want one such girl, but on the other hand-, I think they would be less accepting. (But hey, 70-30-10 rule I guess.) Again, maybe its redundant cause I shouldn't let go of my standards. But it's good to challenge ones ideas I suppose.

PS I figured I would share how I go about it right now.

The topic of dating comes up, joking about bad dates and whatnot, and I will casually mention it in a smooth way that I rushed into my last and only relationship I've been in. Maybe mention that many things can't be taken for granted today in relationships that could be in the past. I tell her that I want to be sure of the girl I'm giving up my exclusivity to. I also do my best to convey that it's nothing personal, and I appreciate the time I'm spending with her. All of what I say to them is 100% truthful and what I believe.

I believe it's important to understand the girls perspective, the main concerns she has this early on into dating I would think is STDS and that I'm a waste of time. (On this point I want to elaborate, I realize I want to lead with alpha qualities and having fun, but I think I might be giving off too much fuckboy vibes if that is possible-, seeing as the type of girl I'm looking for is rather innocent. Of course the relationship is her problem but still.)

There may also be something short of dread, that she doesn't want to share me, but I think it would be lower on the list of priorities at this time because she has barely any investment in me. Despite me showing up attractive and good SMV, I can't be so bold to assume she has genuine burning desire right of the bat. Especially since we won't have had sex yet, cause the convo is during the first or second date.

Thanks in advance for any criticism, harsh or otherwise.

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