For those of you looking at plugging back into what we worked on in Fair Play 101, wanting accountability and conversations to continue or bring back momentum, tomorrow I'll be hosting a session to help men improve their marriages and take a look at how they can be owning more of the mental load I know their wives desperately want Link is in the calendar:) Monday 1pm EST For those of you that have wanted to introduce this work to someone but they wouldn't want a 1 on 1 call, this is a good opportunity to invite to.

(Note this is the community you will want to join to be a part of this challenge: https://www.skool.com/mentalloadbasics/about) 1. @Katie Muller 2. @Braelyn Vandop 3. Ben Blayney (our Sept Winner) at 29pts 4. @Rye Druzchetta Some changes coming in November -Multi place winners, there will be a 1st 2nd and 3rd place -no more gendered challenges, instead opportunity to acknowledge partners -referrals will have a slightly lower value, or daily submissions will be more points, I know it can take some courage to talk with your community about these things, so i think those are valuable convos you'll be having and are worth their points. What challenge should we do in November?

For my July Cohort, here is what you will be learning/practicing today: (new cohorts, can't hurt to learn early) Anger - when Alyssa tells me to do something I’m already doing and have been thinking about Shame - when there are still moments of Alyssa holding the mental load of chores that I own and have slipped on with the standard (trash she took to the curb today bc I didn’t do it last night the way o normally do) Guilt - that Alyssa has owned so much of the process of us choosing what details of the house to update as we prepare our house to put on the market Guilt 2- anytime I was not doing significant labor and my in laws were doing more in a given moment than I was when they came over to help clean up Fear - that my ability as a coach and community manager/leader is not delivering enough results and that participants are not being set up well enough to succeed, resulting in a failing business Sad - when Alyssa has lost trust in me and feels hurt or lonely Lonely - the months between when Alyssa initiates physical intimacy Hurt - When Alyssa blamed me for her kicking over my coffee mug this morning (albeit a non-ideal location) Joy - seeing my mom play and teach Everly all day yesterday

Attempt Completing one of these in this community.

Angry – seeing more people during this election year being more racist and misogynistic than normal Shame- that the last time we moved houses, I played such a little part in us, moving in, preparing for the move and purchasing the house Guilt – that I no longer have Sunday Scaries the same way Alyssa still does for her job Fear – of the many things that could go wrong as we gear up to sell the house we are in , it affecting our toddler, not getting the offers were hoping for, and that the agent thinks we can get, not being able to pay off loans we want to out of the acquisition Sadness – knowing I’m going to have to say goodbye to the trail that I worked on a lot the past two years in our back yard Loneliness- Feeling sometimes like I’m stuck regulating myself when Alyssa is mad at me Hurt- When Alyssa Asked me to turn to a page in the hymn book, which I am super unfamiliar with as we never go to church and her taking it away from me saying that I’m useless Joy, I am really excited for not feeling like there’s the thumb of debt on our backs as we sell this place and set up to launch for a much better financial future in the next few few years