I’ve pretty much had the same hobby for 25 years. But given a big tangled mess of issues (the same ones that bring me to Brojo) it’s become more stressful and depressing than entertaining. So I’m on the hunt for alternatives. For reference, I’ve been dancing one or more of salsa/bachata/kizomba/zouk since 1999. It’s pretty challenging finding something that fills the gaps in fitness, social intros, nights at the bar, IRL tinder, and regular travel destinations for big events. Plus of course finding something I find interesting. So, let’s have a discussion about what you guys get yourselves up to. PS, I’ve done a few PT boxing sessions at the gym, which has got me to look at the nearby boxing gyms and Krav Maga options. I plan to check out a few trial classes.

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They felt overwhelmed with so much content available on youtube and with the skool courses. I thought my reply might be helpful for others here too. "Hey dude, the key to optimising learning is you have got to work backwards from your goal. Our brains are freaking learning machines and we get in our own way. 1. Know your outcome (what are you learning about and for what purpose?.) If reading this book/watching this video got you the desired result - what does that look like? Be as specific as possible. How are you different after learning this. 2.Have a clear intent with your why with learning - don't get muddled up with self vanity metrics of ticking off books on your reading list or thinking you have to go through every video or needing to remember every detail. Be clear about your intent. If its watching videos on confidence, then get ready to use the information in your domain confidently. 3. Apply what your learning - go tell others about it (teaching is the best way to retain information) Even if its txting a friend or family member or go write a blog or comment somewhere on the internet. Follow these three steps and you will learn to be on a different level. Not the information overload level the other level. BIG hint the most effective way to learn is about the attitude. An attitude of having a goal and being curious about learning ways and things/concepts that will get you there faster. And more easily."

I stood up for my boundaries and my self respect, and my boss feels that all i did was make a situation worse. I work at a pub as a cellar man doing tasks like line cleaning and counting in the delivery. On Halloween the pub ran a fancy dress karaoke night that I took part in. Had a great time. End of the night i go to say goodnight to the landlady and her fella, and they are being yelled at by a drunk regular. I have been asked by them to not get involved so I stand a little to the side and wait for an opportunity to say goodbye. I seem to have been too close however the drunk then rounded on me. As I was told bot to provoke anything I stood still and let the fool vent his speen, when he ran out of steam said goodnight and made to leave. The bar manager then said to me that I should have backed down and the landlady concurred. Many if my personal confidence issue stem from school bulling and have promised myself to not allow that situation happen again. I feel that backing away would just encouraged the drunk to continue abusing me and the landlady etc. am I wrong in this? This is a new attitude for me and I want to be confident I didn’t overstep. I would appreciate your feedback.

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