Step One: Direction Before we can identify what’s blocking your potential we must first understand what you want. Your goals are not the end all be all, but they are extremely important so that we know what direction you want to take your life. Our goals are not measurements of worth; they are north stars that guide you toward your life’s desire. Step Two: Why? Why is this important to you? There’s a deeper meaning beneath everything we do and everything we want. If you are going to fulfill your potential, you must understand what’s driving you. Because this journey will require you to face the parts of yourself that you don’t like and do things that you don’t want to do. But when you know WHY you’re doing this, you’ll be connected to something much more powerful than your fears. You’ll be connected to a purpose. Step Three: Honest Audit What’s the truth. We all have patterns and realities that we don’t want people to find out. Whether it’s our friends, families, or partners, there are shadows in all of our stories. We must be willing to look at these shadows and bring them to light if we are going to break through the glass ceiling we’ve placed on our lives. Step Four: Evidence To create the life we want, we must become the kind of person who deserves it. Our brains don’t care about what we want to become. It only cares about consistency. You are constantly creating meaning in everything you do, see, and hear. The game changer is becoming intentional with the meaning you attach to the things going on around you. Self-signaling by taking small actions that reflect the kind of person you want to become is how you build evidence that you ARE that kind of person. This is no longer about wanting it’s about being. Step Five: Progress Keeping score. The most addictive thing to the brain is progress. To create lasting habits that support the life you deserve you must track your progress. The key to this is to gamify your growth. Creating a system that is not only simple to follow but fun to do is going to change everything about your life.

Welcome! The Good Man Project is a community where men learn how to break free from the toxic patterns that are secretly destroying their potential. Here's what to do first: Step 1: Introduce yourself below with this copy/paste template: What's your favorite movie? Where are you from? What's your goal inside this community? Don't forget to check out: Breakthrough Mini-Course Step 2: Best practices: 1) Have a profile photo. 2) Space out all your writings into single sentence paragraphs (like I'm doing here). 3) Welcome new members, make helpful posts, share your wins, and engage in the community to level up! Group Rules: 1) No Hate 2) No Self Promotion 3) No Spamming the Community Feed DON'T FORGET TO DOWNLOAD THE APP for easy access to the group!

Insecurity → Coping (sabotage behavior) → Shame → Coping (sabotage behavior) Self-sabotage doesn’t happen at random. It shows up when we’re growing—or being called to grow—beyond our current abilities. Maybe the pressure comes from an outside source, like a new job, a relationship, or the life-altering responsibility of becoming a father. Or maybe the pressure is internal—driven by your own goals, dreams, and the vision of a bigger life. Either way, growth is uncomfortable. When you’re challenged to become more capable, you’re also met with intense resistance. This resistance has a name: Cognitive Dissonance. Formal definition: Cognitive Dissonance is the discomfort typically experienced as psychological stress, which can manifest as feelings of guilt, anxiety, shame, or regret. Put simply, your brain thrives on predictable outcomes, better known as habits, and habits protect you in two ways: 1. They conserve energy. Learning something new takes a massive amount of mental and physical energy. Historically, this energy was reserved for survival—hunting, building shelter, and fighting off predators. 2. They create predictability. Predictability makes survival more likely. When outcomes are familiar, your brain feels safer. Stepping into unknown territory (even just psychologically) sets off your internal alarms because it could be filled with threats. So, What Does This Have to Do with Self-Sabotage? The problem is that modern life has evolved faster than our biology. We don’t need to fight off tigers or hunt for every meal anymore. But our biological responses haven’t caught up in our modern world, where we’re being hijacked by trivial stressors like the latest marketing tactics to get you to buy shit you don’t actually need or comparing our vacations to strangers on social media. As a result, many of us have become masters of coping instead of being. That energy in your body—the same energy designed to help you build, hunt, and thrive—is lying dormant, trapped like a bull in a cage.

On a scale of 1-10, how important is Respect to you as a man? And comment why did you chose that number? I'm curious about what you really feel, not what you think you should say.