I've created an assessment based on the research i've been doing around Dr. Gad Saad's theory of Mating Desirability Score. The research is fascinating and spot on from everything i've ever learned and experienced in my own life. So I wanted to create an assessment that would be valuable for men to identify their score and how to improve it. This is perfect for any man whether you're in a relationship or not. Would love your feedback so we can make it as effective as possible. Take the assessment here: What's Your Good Man Relationship Score?

How many of you feel like you need to prove something just to feel "enough"? - How strong you are. - How successful you are. - How smart you are. For many men the list feels miles long. I used to hate the idea of "proving yourself." It felt like chasing approval from others—my father, my coaches, my friends—always trying to measure up to their judgments. But over time, I’ve reframed this idea. Now, I love the relationship I have with proving something to myself. It’s about showing myself that I can actually do it—whatever “it” might be. Today, I’m introducing something new: The Monday Prompt. Each week, I’ll share a sentence for you to finish in the comments. These prompts are designed to help you reflect, open up, and find the courage to be seen by other men who are on the same journey. This week’s Monday Prompt: I want to prove to myself that I can… Finish the sentence in the comments below. Let’s hear it.

Insecurity → Coping (sabotage behavior) → Shame → Coping (sabotage behavior) Self-sabotage doesn’t happen at random. It shows up when we’re growing—or being called to grow—beyond our current abilities. Maybe the pressure comes from an outside source, like a new job, a relationship, or the life-altering responsibility of becoming a father. Or maybe the pressure is internal—driven by your own goals, dreams, and the vision of a bigger life. Either way, growth is uncomfortable. When you’re challenged to become more capable, you’re also met with intense resistance. This resistance has a name: Cognitive Dissonance. Formal definition: Cognitive Dissonance is the discomfort typically experienced as psychological stress, which can manifest as feelings of guilt, anxiety, shame, or regret. Put simply, your brain thrives on predictable outcomes, better known as habits, and habits protect you in two ways: 1. They conserve energy. Learning something new takes a massive amount of mental and physical energy. Historically, this energy was reserved for survival—hunting, building shelter, and fighting off predators. 2. They create predictability. Predictability makes survival more likely. When outcomes are familiar, your brain feels safer. Stepping into unknown territory (even just psychologically) sets off your internal alarms because it could be filled with threats. So, What Does This Have to Do with Self-Sabotage? The problem is that modern life has evolved faster than our biology. We don’t need to fight off tigers or hunt for every meal anymore. But our biological responses haven’t caught up in our modern world, where we’re being hijacked by trivial stressors like the latest marketing tactics to get you to buy shit you don’t actually need or comparing our vacations to strangers on social media. As a result, many of us have become masters of coping instead of being. That energy in your body—the same energy designed to help you build, hunt, and thrive—is lying dormant, trapped like a bull in a cage.

Welcome! The Good Man Project is a community where men learn how to break free from the toxic patterns that are secretly destroying their potential. Here's what to do first: Step 1: Introduce yourself below with this copy/paste template: What's your favorite movie? Where are you from? What's your goal inside this community? Don't forget to check out: Breakthrough Mini-Course Step 2: Best practices: 1) Have a profile photo. 2) Space out all your writings into single sentence paragraphs (like I'm doing here). 3) Welcome new members, make helpful posts, share your wins, and engage in the community to level up! Group Rules: 1) No Hate 2) No Self Promotion 3) No Spamming the Community Feed DON'T FORGET TO DOWNLOAD THE APP for easy access to the group!

Sex. Or, to put it more appropriately, procreation. Have you ever stopped to think about why so many of us push ourselves so hard to be better, to be successful, or to stand out? It actually has nothing to do with vanity or being egotistical. It’s much deeper than blue check marks on social media or ‘likes’ on our shirtless locker room selfies. It’s biological. For thousands of years, men who had higher status—whether it was in their tribe or community—were more successful at attracting partners. Why? No, it’s not because women are gold diggers. It’s because status meant survival. Because you had access to resources like food, shelter, and protection. It meant alliances with other powerful people. It meant you could provide for a family and keep them safe. Even though the world has changed, that drive to become a high-status male hasn’t. Although the way we signal strength and status has changed, what used to be heads of cattle have now become Ferraris. Status is still ingrained into our biology as a sign of strong genes and the ability to provide for and protect children. When you work hard, set goals, or even try to improve yourself in the gym or your career, a lot of that comes back to signaling to sexual partners that you’re capable, reliable, and someone others can respect or depend on. Here’s how it works: - Status Means Stability: When you’re confident and successful, it shows you can handle challenges and provide security. - Status Builds Connection: Higher status gives you influence—it makes people trust and respect you more. - Status Shows Strength: Being ambitious or driven signals that you’re capable and ready to show up for others. This isn’t about being flashy or "alpha." It’s about building the qualities that make you a strong, reliable, and attractive partner—someone people want to be around and can trust to have their backs. Whether you’re single right now or you’re in a long-term relationship, the biological signals of a high-status, healthy partner never lose their desirability.