I loved my son Hayden the moment I saw him. But I was 100% not ready for him or to love him completely haha. He had difficulty with acid reflux, and just eating/weight in general. I was totally overwhelmed. I wasn't able to give all of myself to my wife or son. I delt with some shame about that, and I guess still do in a very small way. But now I know for sure I am capable and can be excited. Now I just cannot wait to have our next baby and just give it everything I couldn't give Hayden. So to finally get to the advice.... I think babies can't remember those early months very well for a reason. It's gives us space to adjust and screw up a bunch. If I could go back, I would wake up earlier, get in really good shape (cutting not bulking as you'll likely add weight during the first few months anyway lol) and overall get all systems physically and mentally as tight as I could. I did next to NOTHING for my body and nervous system prepping for my son. And I really should have.