During my years as a preacher’s wife, I mastered the CHURCH SMILE. You know the one where you can turn from quietly growling at a child and suddenly, “Oh heeeeeeey, sis! I’m so happy to see you! How is your mom? I’ve been praying for her.” I know you have done it. Most of you, I’ve witnessed you do it. 😆😆😆 But WHY do we do it? Because in a lot of settings, it is not SAFE to FEEL. We can’t say, “I’m blazing PISSED and I don’t any to smile.” Because as absurd as it is, most people don’t think HONEST EMOTION is godly unless it is all roses and sunshine. But is that true? Do you feel separated from God when you are justifiably angry? If I can share anything of value, I hope you hear my voice as you read this: God gets angry. So God is not bothered when you are angry. In fact, God can even handle when you are angry at Him. Life is hard and sometimes it takes us farther than we feel capable of going. Horrible things happen. And it is infuriating when you KNOW God and trust His ability to change the circumstances. God is not mad at us for being angry. And God is not insecure. So, much like my mini-hothead daughter’s tantrums don’t stress me, mine don’t make God push me away either. God came especially close when I was in a fury and blamed God for the devastation in my marriage. And I felt safer than ever, even in my rage. “Be angry and sin not” But just know that it is not a threat. It’s wisdom. Definitely a good advice. But it doesn’t mean that God can’t handle it. So let’s change this. Instead of putting on the fake smile next time, just be honest. Tell HOW YOU REALLY FEEL. 💛🫂

I was a member of the churches of Christ for 18 years. I was very different when I started than who I became in that system. The outgoing, confident girl who went there to find community in college didn’t know that all of the parts of her that made HER smile would be the things she would be expected to let go of in order to be a GODLY WOMAN. I learned that the Me who asked a lot of questions was perceived as a threat and insubordinate to certain male leaders. I learned that the artist ME would be considered a “waste of time” since my real priorities were memorizing scripture in prep for Bible battles with unbelievers and eventually having babies. I learned that LEADER-ME was offensive to God because women are allowed to do THAT! I didn’t understand why but they had scripture so I accepted it. I didn’t know any better. I trusted them. But when my marriage was crumbling from my husband’s deception around his addiction to pornography, I didn’t have a space to feel safe and be REAL about what I was feeling. Until I found my Babywearing community. Turns out moms with Babywearing-size babies are really just looking for community. We had a FB Group that was booming between 1 and 4 am while we were up nursing our babies! And I could vent there without judgment. They became my safe space. So as you look around your life, where are those spaces for you?? My hope is that this group will be one. Because here, you don’t have to be anything other than what you are in this moment. 💛

As a company rooted in self-love and self-awareness, we commit to an abundance of self-care during November and December. We will be on hiatus from taking new clients and starting new programs until January as we reevaluate our goals for 2025. So I will also be archiving this group as well. I appreciate you all for joining. The #HolyHotHead Podcast will continue so feel free to join me there. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-holyhothead-podcast/id1772742114 Happy Holidays! 👋🏾 Feel free to send me a DM if you have any questions.

Got work to do that you have been procrastinating on? Struggle with staying focused? Want to vent to us while you work? Grab a your tea or coffee annd join our 2nd H3•C3 Hour…TOMORROW at 1:30pm PST.

Do you identify with being “strong”? Are you who everyone else leans on? Is your number the one people have memorized in case there is an emergency? Yes. Yes. And yes for me. And there is a part of me that likes that people feel safe with me. I feel like God is glorified in how I love those assigned to me. But then there is that other part. That part that gets TIRED. That part that loses my temper. That part that used to look around when I was hurting and felt abandoned because there was NO ONE. It was THAT part that God gave a hug and told me it was ok for me to feel that way. And it was THAT part that needed to feel loved and eventually needed to heal. It is that part that needs to come chat with us. I want to say THANK YOU to all of our beautiful community who came through yesterday on our group’s first #H3•C3 call. We are the giants that God has commissioned to do amazing work in the world. We do it beautifully. But that is a heavy load to bear at times. Most people do not understand the BIGNESS of what we carry because we carry it “so well” but we need space to put the weight down. That’s what this group and our meetings are for. I look forward to seeing you at the next one. I know you are strong. And that’s why you need us. (And we need you too!) Feel free to invite a friend who needs it too! Action: Check out the calendar and ADD to your private calendar so you don’t forget. See you soon!