Hi everyone!! It's been months since I joined and posted. I honestly forgot I even did. I have a terrible memory lately. Ever since I had covid 4 years ago really bad. Sometimes I can't even remember the simplest word. Anyway, how does one deal w a super strong willed child. I lose my patience quite often but I have improved a lot lately and I'm working on self control. She can really test you!! You tell her not to do something, sometimes she will look at you, smile and do it anyway. It drives me insane. I've let her learn the hard way at times but she still doesn't get it. Strange thing was she was my easiest baby, worst sleeper as a baby tho, but once she turned 3 and 4 game over lol. She's been my most challenging and I thought my first one was. I also deal w a very negative angry boy who when he's ok is the sweetest most caring boy ever. I've been praying for my family for years. My husband has changed tremendously over the years thank God. He is a lot calmer and more peaceful and has more patience then i do now, but we went thru a lot of turmoil and anger for many years. It's been a tough battle. I know God will see us thru as we stay faithful but any tips for my daughter? Thanks!

Okie dokie, it appears I'm somewhat instituting this. My problem is my husband comes from a incredibly controlling mom, so anytime I get this going, he whips around and pushes back, which the kids respond to because it's easier. His response is either, I don't see why, or, I don't see why not. I'm lost, I'm pulling my hair out, my boundaries are largely in place with him. I've set them energetically and back then up with my actions. Because they're done this way I don't have to say a word, and it's been fascinating to watch. And yes, he constantly pushes my boundaries too. Buttttt the destructive force he loiters around the house with makes it incredibly taxing for me to continue.

I wanted to share a personal win. Brave Moms helped me realize how much I try to control what my kids (5 and 2) do. My 2 year old found our tactile salt activity pan and started playing in it. My knee-jerk reaction (my knee literally jerked toward her) was to say ‘no’, knowing she would make a mess. Then I caught myself and thought, “She’s learning by experimenting with the texture. So what if I have to vacuum it up?” And I watched her enjoy it. And then it spilled everywhere. And then I vacuumed it up. And guess what? Nothing. Nothing happened. I’m learning to let go! :)