Okie dokie, it appears I'm somewhat instituting this. My problem is my husband comes from a incredibly controlling mom, so anytime I get this going, he whips around and pushes back, which the kids respond to because it's easier.
His response is either, I don't see why, or, I don't see why not.
I'm lost, I'm pulling my hair out, my boundaries are largely in place with him. I've set them energetically and back then up with my actions. Because they're done this way I don't have to say a word, and it's been fascinating to watch. And yes, he constantly pushes my boundaries too.
Buttttt the destructive force he loiters around the house with makes it incredibly taxing for me to continue.