{SHARE} : SMV Downsides PT2 · Apex Inner Game

{SHARE} : SMV Downsides PT2

I wanted to share this with you guys after my post and the discussion in the zoom call Sunday. A girl I’ve seen 5 times broke things off with me yesterday morning. We had a lot of fun, great connection and she was starting to fall for me hard.

She asked me 2 dates ago what I was looking for and I told her I’m interested in having fun together and if it turns into something serious that’s a bonus. Whenever women push me to choose casual or LTR seeking, I always try to set the frame that it’s hard to answer because we hardly know each other yet. I convey that if we keep having fun, and getting to know each other, and they are what I’m looking for, I’d be crazy NOT to want a relationship.

Back to the point of the post : sometimes with our higher SMV, girls fall for us FAST. And sometimes the shit you deal with is a result of their dread. One of the frameworks I set up with this chick was honesty : let’s always be honest with each other. Since we had excellent communication, I think that’s why I got this text VS getting ghosted or playing games.

Theres more to the texts I won’t share, but basically I told her I’d call her on my way home last night for us to chat. She told me she is starting to develop feelings, and doesn’t want to find her in a position where she gets hurt if I can’t commit. We shared a couple laughs and I left the door open for her to come back if she has a change of heart.

Looking back this makes total sense the way things panned out. First 2 dates were just drinks with heavy make outs/frame setting. Our last 3 dates were more fantasy building/letting her into my world : exotic car rally, drinks at my favorite high end restaurant, visiting my tailor at Gucci followed by lunch at my sushi spot. The last 3 dates we also had crazy sex, she hadn’t been fucked like that in years.

All of this is just to point out sometimes it has nothing to do with you, it’s all about them. And most of the time you’ll be confused and wonder “dude things were going great what happened?!”. With this particular girl, we got a leak behind the curtain.

Have you guys experienced this lately? Looking back on recent experiences, does this help connect dots?

@Paul Benjamin

if you could continue to give us more examples and clarity of game playing/disinterest VS high interest/dread it would be a huge benefit.

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