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Morning Apex Crew. So far I’ve been single again for about 36HRs and I’m coming out of the gate hot. I’ll be journaling some of my Field Reports for us to breakdown, but also as a way to help myself understand the dynamics of dating since I’ve been out of the game for awhile. any thoughts are always helpful, but I’d particularly like your feedback on #9 and my sexual action threshold theory.
I’m out of town for a conference this week and got into town mid afternoon. I decided to use this as an opportunity to polish up my skills and shake the rust off from my pick up/cold approach. In one night, I met maybe a dozen women I had a connection with, and closed 4 of them with contact info. I’ll do a more general breakdown of the night, but for the first post I’ll share a girl I met and did a same-day-date with.
After a few hours of bar hopping I decided to head back to my hotel for the night. I was taking my service dog for one last bathroom break and saw a cool high end bar across the street that was pretty slow but I was getting hungry. Turns out there’s a pretty cute chick by herself at the bar, so I sat 2 seats down from her. Long story short I opened her and started talking/connecting. Here’s what stood out from the night :
- Getting to know her, I learned she is in from out of town as well to visit the corporate office, and actually lives about an hour from me back home. She has 2 kids, broke up with the father a few months ago and views these trips as her getaway where she can leave responsibilities and just relax. This was the first sign of a potential same night lay.
2. When building connection, we had a lot of moments where she was saying things like “wow I can’t believe this” and “that’s SO crazy” (in the stupid girl voice they all have lol). Turns out we’re from the same home town, are the same age, graduated the same year and have similar tastes. I also think it’s important to note that we don’t have any mutual friends. Another green light.
3. I noticed she was eating very slowly, and drinking very fast. To me I figured she was enjoying her conversation with me, but wanted to get a little buzzed and enjoy her night. Looking back I’m actually surprised how well she handled her liquor.
4. The compliance was big, at least through my lense. We were sampling each other cocktails, trading pieces of my lobster for her steak, which seemed like very intimate things to do with a stranger that you wouldn’t do with just anyone. I interpret this as high interest.
5. After I paid my bill, I told her I was having fun and have a cool spot I want to take her to. Keep in mind at this point it’s maybe like 10PM. She agrees, pays her bill and I start setting deeper frame with pulling out her chair, grabbing her by the hand and leading her through the restaurant.
6. ***Heres what I’d consider my first big fuck up*** I’m usually very aggressive on dates. Not in a creepy type of way if that makes sense, but more of an assertive/dominant way. As we walked to the next venue I went in for a kiss and fumbled it pretty bad so I just played it cool. At the bar we had very secluded seats where I went for the 2nd attempt, connected with her and got a kiss back. Now I’m thinking cool, forward progress. We spend about an hour there, pay the tab, she’s taking videos and pictures on our way out telling me how cool the spot was. We have about a 10min walk back to the hotel, where I went to kiss close 2 more times and got rejected. I couldn’t keep it in my pants and was a little buzzed myself. I think this gave her too much power and she even asked “why do you want to kiss me so bad”.
7. After my final attempt at the kiss close, she started giving value statements like “I’m not like that”, “I don’t just kiss random people”, “you’re probably use to girls just throwing themselves at you aren’t you?”. When she was saying things like that, to me it reads “I want to kiss you, but because of my ego and beliefs I want to pretend I don’t so that you think I’m a good chimp”.
8. I walked her back to her hotel (right across the street from mine) and she said she’d give me a hug, which I didn’t think was a great sign. She told me to text her once I got back to my room, but I flipped it and said “give me your phone, you text ME when you get back to your room” with a smirk. I gave her my number and she texted back about 15mins later. I was getting ready for bed and didn’t respond, but woke up to another text from her (double text = high interest).
9. Diving deeper into the dynamics of last night, here’s what I THINK happened : has a YouTube episode that reminds me of this. There’s a girls desire and her sexual action threshold. I think the girl last night had high desire, but the sexual action threshold wasn’t high enough. It’s a theory, but maybe she considered me dating material more than one night stand material, and is trying to position herself for something more when we get back home.
Hope everyone gets something out of all this. I’d like to get feedback from you guys on my breakdown as well as any blind spots. Questions are good too, so fire away if you have them.
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