Insecurity → Coping (sabotage behavior) → Shame → Coping (sabotage behavior) Self-sabotage doesn’t happen at random. It shows up when we’re growing—or being called to grow—beyond our current abilities. Maybe the pressure comes from an outside source, like a new job, a relationship, or the life-altering responsibility of becoming a father. Or maybe the pressure is internal—driven by your own goals, dreams, and the vision of a bigger life. Either way, growth is uncomfortable. When you’re challenged to become more capable, you’re also met with intense resistance. This resistance has a name: Cognitive Dissonance. Formal definition: Cognitive Dissonance is the discomfort typically experienced as psychological stress, which can manifest as feelings of guilt, anxiety, shame, or regret. Put simply, your brain thrives on predictable outcomes, better known as habits, and habits protect you in two ways: 1. They conserve energy. Learning something new takes a massive amount of mental and physical energy. Historically, this energy was reserved for survival—hunting, building shelter, and fighting off predators. 2. They create predictability. Predictability makes survival more likely. When outcomes are familiar, your brain feels safer. Stepping into unknown territory (even just psychologically) sets off your internal alarms because it could be filled with threats. So, What Does This Have to Do with Self-Sabotage? The problem is that modern life has evolved faster than our biology. We don’t need to fight off tigers or hunt for every meal anymore. But our biological responses haven’t caught up in our modern world, where we’re being hijacked by trivial stressors like the latest marketing tactics to get you to buy shit you don’t actually need or comparing our vacations to strangers on social media. As a result, many of us have become masters of coping instead of being. That energy in your body—the same energy designed to help you build, hunt, and thrive—is lying dormant, trapped like a bull in a cage.

I'm currently writing the about page for this community and I'd love your thoughts. Here's the draft I'm working on: A Man Without Guidance Carries Wounds He Can't See. If you grew up without a strong, healthy male role model—or are still searching for what it means to be that man—you’re not alone. The truth is, until you heal the wounds left by the men who failed to teach you, you'll unknowingly pass that pain forward: in your relationships, your work, and even to your own children. The Good Man Project isn’t about hyper-masculinity or performative toughness. It’s about learning the real skills—Responsibility, Accountability, Dependability, and Credibility—that create a man others can trust, respect, and love. This is your invitation to a free community of men who are done pretending. Done avoiding the hard truths. Done feeling stuck. Inside, you’ll find the tools, conversations, and support to become the kind of man you can be proud of.

Had an amazing and unexpected opportunity to meet Dan Koe and his Kortex app development team in Downtown Toronto this afternoon. Amazing coincidence as I had just spent the last week travelling in NV, CA, and AZ only to see him announce on IG that he was going to host a meet & greet in Toronto where I was flying back home to. What an amazing and memorable way to end an already fantastic week! Dan and his team were extremely gracious with their time and walked us through some of the latest and soon-to-be implemented features on Kortex. Highly suggest looking into it if you haven’t already. Definitely a game changer for anyone looking to streamline their content creation and increase their note-taking efficiency. Best of all I had the chance to express my gratitude to Dan for being an amazing inspiration and for equipping me the the knowledge that is more possible than ever to do what you love and get paid for it. Big respects to that guy. I’m sure many of you are familiar with Dan and I hope he’ll be doing more meetups in the future and that we may all get the chance to connect with him in person sometime 👍 Such a cool experience!

Good morning men, I'm going to focus a lot of time on Self-Sabotage: What it is and How to break free from. But first, let me ask you, is this something that you have struggled with? If so, what are some behaviors or habits that are currently holding you back from something you want to accomplish?