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Hey all, I’m a fellow Fair Play facilitator like Zach. Thanks @Zach Watson for inviting me in. It’s awesome to see you build this community for men. I wanted to share a part of my story in the hopes , that it will be helpful to someone. I’m a dad to a 17-yr old daughter and 9-yr old boy. The story I’m about to share is about parenting, anxiety and growing up. I became a dad overnight. I say overnight because my daughter is my stepdaughter and my wife and I dated for awhile, then agreed to buy a house together, then got married. Not the most common order of things. So, when things got serious and we committed to taking that next step in our relationship ~ 12 years ago, I became a full-time dad and homeowner in one fell swoop. My daughter also was born with a disability: an undiagnosed neurological condition that even the best children’s neurologists could only loosely label a variation on the PUM1 gene. This disability affects her movement and speech at various times of the day, but it’s worse in the mornings. Her biological father was involved in a small way earlier on, but he never came through for her over the years in the ways that a dad needs to for their kid, and as she grew older, she became more and more aware of his lack, and decided she didn’t want a relationship with him. In 2017, at the age of 10, a dog bit her face so badly that she had to get rushed to the ER. It left a half dollar size scar on her cheek. I’m providing all of this context so that you understand some of the things we have gone through as a family. And to say, my daughter has been through a lot in her 17 years of life. She is fierce and a fighter. I also provide this context to say as my child struggled, we struggled too. Parenting is hard. My daughter struggles with anxiety. This gets the best of her often. For years, my wife and I struggled to know how to parent best to this. We tried everything we could think of. And we fought. With our daughter, with each other. We also got stronger together.
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Frederick Van Riper
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Relationship Fitness & Communication Coach. Helping working parents reclaim their TIME, restore their ENERGY, and achieve stress-free COMMUNICATION.

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