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43 contributions to Benji's Charisma Club
Thinking of shutting this down.
Lately this has been in my mind. So far 18 people have joined, few are invited, 2 are active lol, few read. I entered this niche with uninformed optimism with my hopes glamorously high not knowing I had to master consistent high youtube views, then get 1-on-1 free testimonial, then open up a community. Skool is 70£ and Im not sure I can keep that up for long. I will use this community to the end of its bill and if nothing takes off, we’ll go all in on youtube for a while, get high views then come back. Hope you few who read this understand, Cheers brother
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A small gentlemanly actionable step.
A very small but chivalrous gesture that never fails. 3 times in the last 2 weeks have I accidentally found myself in situations that allow me to be chivalrous. 1 was helping an old granny with a park gate. 2 was opening a door for a girl classmate, she looks at me unexpecting of this, and waiting for me to go first until I say "after you", "thank you" then of course my friend has to comment on it, of which I reply "chivalry is not dead" deadass 3 me and girl literally at the opening of a staircase about to go up, the most perfectly timed awkward meeting of who should go first occurs, and so I immediately say "after you" of which smiles and thank you's. Do this instead of ignoring the girl, walking off, walking first, or just literally standing there with a straight bitch face and letting her go first. Prolly lightens up their day alil and gives practice to stop being a social cretin lol Benji
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How 14-15 year old me was fueled to lock in.
2 years of consistent straight cold showers. Talk to strangers. (Still do) Never missed a day of gym in routine. (still don't really) 5am consistent for months to work, waking up before school. Bulked from 55kg to 70 ish kg. Locking in to that from being a anime watching, jerk off, wake up play games till the evening in greasy ass sweat. How? Well. From having multiple phases recently, multiple motivations, multiple stages. Of being nice, become really grateful and that was all nice and really good to have in social situations, being this present, grounded and playful person. Reading books like Way of the superior man and getting a "higher" view or taking the "higher" path. Reading books like How to win friends and influence people, with principles like never condemn or complain or judge. But after a while, from not supplementing my mind with those books and having that philosophy slowly be replaced by my old identity, I felt it again. That same hatred/ anger feeling from depicting situations in a negative way. (e.g girl from my class doesn't look at me walking by outside of lesson when it's obvious, I've started to think "oh she doesn't like me" again instead of "oh she probably is day dreaming") Admittedly I feel that I've kind of let this happen again to see the anger, because being really grateful and so on and so forth kinda made me a lil less "locked in" if you will. I just became lil more contempt and happy. (I'm sure theres a way to be grateful AND disciplined) But if you look at any mfer that is disciplined online they always got something to say about their haters, or some statement like "fuck them" or generally just have a vibe of being hard hearted. And so that leads me to believe from experience and seeing these disciplined people with the same vibe to think that negative mental health, or fully taking situations as disrespect (e.g bro not dapping you up, girl not looking or smiling at you) instead of the positive and healthy way which is (bro didn't dap me up cuz he shy) will and has always given me fuel/discipline/anger.
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Seek and ye shall find
If you want something, even something small, a habit, a lifestyle change. Write out the clear cut action step, for it, remind yourself of it daily. Eventually opportunities will literally flow to you (happens to me everytime) I think there's a scientific explanation for it, but also some law of attraction shit, and generally just literally God "Seek and ye shall find" If you want alot of things, and things feel like they pile up, and it feels like you gotta do all of them, ask yourself this: What is one thing that if I do, the rest will solve it self. or What if I could only do 1 or 2 of these things? which one would I do. Then set your heart on those. You have to lock in lol. Chase many rabbits you'll get none. Try to wake up at 5am, take cold shower, meditate, then read all in the same day for a week and you've done none of those before? 99% fail rate, unless you get heartbroken or some shit I guess. Hone in. See the opportunities. All the best, Benji
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You know exactly what to do.
- David Goggins Deep down inside you know exactly what to do. You may try to dance around the task and find "easier" or "better" ways, but that's really just fear, and until you realize it's fear you'll be in denial and maybe even hate the things you HAVE to do. Or maybe HATE the person that reminds you to do them. Or hate the person that DOES them. This is a horrific place to be in yet, treasured when overcome. Horrific as in "You're soul will torment you until you do it" or something along the lines of that by Alex Hormozi. This is evident in a discipline pursuit where you know you should be waking up earlier (instant regret when hitting snooze and waking up hours later with hours wasted) This is evident in social scenario's where maybe you KNOW talking to that girl that's been giving you signs (but you're minds saying "oh but what if im wrong") Treasured when overcome as in you may actually realize that all the consequences in your head from doing it happen in a completely unexpected way that you can accept OR EVEN DOESN'T HAPPEN AT ALL. An example from myself (and this really is a small example) is when I switch to a new class of people for my second year at college and saw some new people, and admittedly some pretty girls in the class. Immediately I felt the slight discomfort and put on a bit of an act, I dread that when we do activities that are meant to introduce each other I won't be able to handle it, I dread and FEAR that I'll fuck up, stutter in my words, explode in anxiety, freak out, die? Then... As it all begins to happen with a game to question each other and write down each others names, I start with a dude and his girlfriend, then move to the girl next to them (that's their friend) then the girls from the other tables walk by whilst I talk to a few other dudes. NOTHING HAPPENED. I LITERALLY FORGOT THAT I HAD ANXIETY. Or maybe another scenario where I asked out this random blonde girl in the gym as I was really obsessed with cold approach at that time by saying "I think you're cute, I think we should hit a workout together sometime"
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