Sep 22 in General discussion
You know exactly what to do.
- David Goggins
Deep down inside you know exactly what to do.
You may try to dance around the task and find "easier" or "better" ways, but that's really just fear, and until you realize it's fear you'll be in denial and maybe even hate the things you HAVE to do. Or maybe HATE the person that reminds you to do them. Or hate the person that DOES them.
This is a horrific place to be in yet, treasured when overcome.
Horrific as in "You're soul will torment you until you do it" or something along the lines of that by Alex Hormozi.
This is evident in a discipline pursuit where you know you should be waking up earlier (instant regret when hitting snooze and waking up hours later with hours wasted)
This is evident in social scenario's where maybe you KNOW talking to that girl that's been giving you signs (but you're minds saying "oh but what if im wrong")
Treasured when overcome as in you may actually realize that all the consequences in your head from doing it happen in a completely unexpected way that you can accept OR EVEN DOESN'T HAPPEN AT ALL.
An example from myself (and this really is a small example) is when I switch to a new class of people for my second year at college and saw some new people, and admittedly some pretty girls in the class.
Immediately I felt the slight discomfort and put on a bit of an act, I dread that when we do activities that are meant to introduce each other I won't be able to handle it, I dread and FEAR that I'll fuck up, stutter in my words, explode in anxiety, freak out, die?
Then... As it all begins to happen with a game to question each other and write down each others names, I start with a dude and his girlfriend, then move to the girl next to them (that's their friend) then the girls from the other tables walk by whilst I talk to a few other dudes.
NOTHING HAPPENED.
I LITERALLY FORGOT THAT I HAD ANXIETY.
Or maybe another scenario where I asked out this random blonde girl in the gym as I was really obsessed with cold approach at that time by saying "I think you're cute, I think we should hit a workout together sometime"
I was so in my head that I expected her to either rejoice and smile or say no of which I'll immediately reply with "alright take it as a compliment then" as a literal script I had in my head.
NONE OF IT HAPPENED.
She continued putting weight away, said "thank you with a slight smile" and with the question of "I think we should hit a workout together" SHE SAID "sure".
But it was kinda in a awkward and unreadable way, of which I just kinda awkward walked away.
Then a few weeks later, we see each other, make eye contact, didn't make much of it.
(dammit, should've push it alil more and saw what would've happened)
So (I know this is a bit shallow) but whatever it is you're dreading or fearing to do.
Take steps towards it in miniscule ways (like I did with building it up from, a dude and his girl, to a girl straight up)
Or just do it lol.
Chances are the outcome isn't what you expect.
All the best,
Benji
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