Hey everyone I'll pin this post as a thread we can use to recommend and request resources from each other. So comment below either with your recommended resources (e.g. books, videos, courses you found helpful - from anyone) or ask for recommendations to help solve your issues.

Its a self-diagnosis and bit of professional diagnosis. I suffer from Complex Post traumatic stress syndrome having gone through childhood trauma. And then there's nice guy syndrome, borderline personality, and maybe more. The point is that I've worked at being 'good & nice' so that then everything will be all-right. So got good grades in college, worked hard to make a marriage work, my kids love me, build a good happy family life with the white picket fences, station wagon, and the dog. It still doesn't feel good on the inside. Cuz, I've been fixing things and people without considering the most important person in the whole story. ME. This may sound selfish and self-centered. But hear me out. I have spend the better part of my life fixing things. And they are pretty much fixed. So how is it that I feel shitty, empty and unfulfilled? Bcuz, I started the wrong way. I started Outside In. And the right way is INSIDE OUT. I've to focus on my needs, desires and that would involve struggles too. It ain't about going out and lifes a party kind of living. It's more closer to what energizes me and at the same time is just outside my comfort zone. For example, I've been so busy gazing and working away at the computer, researching, designing , building away to make money and fortune. All of which are good and have their place. The wake up call is, that when I finally looked up and away having got all the financials taken care off. I realize that life has been passing by and QUICKLY. I've bought into a narrative that doesn't serve me and doesn't add happiness to my existence. So, I'm going to eat the humble pie and have started to pull away from the computer and live more in the real world. I won't live life lop-sided, only early more money to feel worthy and have my self-esteem along with my self-worth go up and down on a roller-coaster with my profts and losss statement. I'm getting out more and the interactions are getting better and Real. I already have a routine, fine-tuning it to add more fulfilling things that I love doing. Taking on more work, but more focused on the process and not rushing to some goldpot at the end.

In this AMA, I answer the following questions about confidence: - What's the best way - strategies, methods - to really get to know myself and like myself? - How can people stop defining themselves - their actions, life view etc. - by the Nice Guy Syndrome? - Any suggestions and advice for a work confrontation with a colleague who tries to control me? - How to push through with Radical Honesty without backing down when they're resistant? Thanks to the Leaderboard Winners for October for their questions. Hope my answers help!

Hey guys, the video, audio and chat box recordings are now available in the Dropbox folder for yesterday's session. Password is in your email (for paying Brotherhood members only). Thanks to @Slava K , @Chris Thompson and @Aaron Frater for sharing your ideas in a debate about how to enjoy life more. We explored the difference between enjoyment and temporary pleasure, as well as the relationship between stress and enjoyment of life. Extra resources that back up our discussion: - The Frame Control course is probably the most relevant for a deeper dive into this topic. - Podcast on managing stress - How to deal with pressure NEXT CALL TIME: - Europe: Wed 21st Nov, 9am CET (8am UK time) - USA: Wed 21st Nov, 12am PST (3am EST) - Oceania: Wed 21st Nov, 9pm NZ time (7pm Sydney time) - Asia: Wed 21st Nov, 1:30pm India Time Message or email me if you won't make it and want questions answered, and let me know if you're keen for the hot seat (next is Chris). Zoom link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82202610772

Daily Dose of Integrity I've worked with people seeking help with confrontations for decades now. I've come to the conclusion that the best intention you can have is to build self-respect. Intention is the only thing that you can control. It requires nothing from anyone else. No matter how good you are at confrontations, there is no guaranteed way to control another person. You cannot force people to even listen to you, let alone change their behaviour and treat you with respect or do what you prefer. As soon as you have attachment to outcomes, you've already lost, because no matter how good you get at your tactics— you just won't be able to control everyone. While you cannot control other people, you can make the reason you engage in confrontations and boundary setting clear to yourself: it’s about building your confidence through building self-respect. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/1XI5kQvaS9I