In today's world, love often feels like a concept straight out of a fairytale, where everything feels perfect to you and every relationship has a "happily ever after." But the reality is, love is not an effortless, magical solution to life's problems. The love stories we see in movies and books are just that... -- Stories. They offer an "ideal" version of love that doesn't always match up with your real life marriage. This mismatch can lead you down a rabbit hole unrealistic expectations and crushing disappointment when things don't go as smoothly as you hoped. True love involves understanding. It involves patience. A willingness to work through challenges together. To move beyond the fairytale narrative, you can start by showing small meaningful gestures. Remember... it's the simple small things done every day that begin to add up. Maybe for you it's keeping the living room orderly or even leaving small love notes for you partner to find throughout the day. Sure, it will feel "unnatural" or "out of place" at the start. But just know those feelings are normal as you begin to return your marriage from its current icy depths back into a warm loving relationship. If the strange "forced love" feeling becomes too much, engage in open communication with your partner about your needs and expectations. Practice gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating the small, everyday acts of love, rather than waiting for grand gestures. Make a conscious effort to spend quality time together, where you actively listen and connect on a deeper level. By focusing on these practical steps, you can cultivate a more grounded and fulfilling relationship that thrives on mutual respect and genuine connection. Embrace the reality that love is a dynamic and evolving experience, and by doing so, you can build a relationship that is strong, resilient, and deeply satisfying. Dr. Jon P.S. I would love to hear from you! What small gestures have you taken since reading the first couple chapters of The Gentle Reconnection Steps? Any challenges you're facing at the moment? Leave a comment 👇

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This is easily a top 5 question I’ve received over my 11 years of helping couples rekindle their marriage. Often what ends up happening is that a concerned wife will buy & read The Gentle Reconnection Steps, begin to apply the techniques, but feel as if she’s forcing acts of love and kindness. This leads to having thoughts of “I feel insecure and needy, and I’m not usually any of those things…” or “He might think I need something since I’m acting nice.” These thoughts couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s completely normal for you to feel that way in the beginning when strengthening your marriage. Think of it as building “love momentum.” The beginning is slow. But day after day, those small, genuine efforts begin to compound. After a week… communication with your partner feels more easy and open. After two weeks… you both begin to understand each other’s love language. Around a month… you fully begin to leave that “roommate” dynamic back to a loving husband and wife. Now I would like to hear a little bit from you. Since you began to dive into the first couple chapters of The Gentle Reconnection Steps, what questions or challenges have come up as you’ve begun to apply the techniques from the book? Let me know in the comment section below so we can work through some obstacles