Why, When, What? · InnerPeaceWalker: Worth Waker

Why, When, What?

We're led to believe that goal setting is the way to go to move forward in our lives. We even set time limits on them - 5 year, 6 months, 10 years, whatever.

And yet, we may be forgetting certain facets about them, which leads them to being half-baked, yet something we still hook everything regarding our self worth on and us getting stuck.

When this happens, we can ask ourselves 3 little questions: Why, when and what?

Let's start with why:

For those of you who were around in the 90s or who like delving into nostalgia, who remembers Mindy from the cartoon Animaniacs - always asking “Why?” over and over? It might have driven her dog, Buttons, up the wall, but there’s actually a lot of wisdom in her constant questioning.

When we set goals—whether it’s to find a partner, lose weight, or land a big promotion—we often don’t dig deep enough. We tell ourselves we want something, but how often do we ask, “Why do I want this?

Now some might say, 'I don't know why' - which is where we can use the other 2 questions to help - when and what?

Take the goal of losing weight. We can have a conversation with ourselves in the style of the below example:

Why do you want to lose weight?
Because it’ll make me feel good and confident.
What will feeling confident bring you?
I’ll feel comfortable in my own skin and capable of more.
And what will being capable bring you?
I’ll have the freedom to do more in life, maybe take on new adventures I’ve been avoiding

Suddenly, you see that the real desire is about feeling worthy, accepted, and free—things tied not to weight, but to self-worth.

Too often, we set external goals because we believe achieving them will solve an internal struggle. But no amount of external validation will fill the void of low self-worth. When we don’t ask “Why?” or “What will that bring me?” we miss the chance to realize the deeper issues driving us.

So next time you set a goal, take a cue from Mindy. Ask "Why?" repeatedly. Follow it up with “What will that bring me?” and “When will I feel whole enough?” You'll likely find that the real journey isn’t about hitting that external milestone, but about healing the part of you that feels incomplete without it. 🌱

When you start setting goals from a place of wholeness, rather than from a place of lack, that’s when the magic happens. 💡

Try it and see how it works for you, would love to hear your updates in the comments below

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