I've got 3 questions for you... · InnerPeaceWalker: Worth Waker

I've got 3 questions for you...

You are welcome to answer them in whatever manner you feel. In fact, what ever comes up for you, jot it down, there's no right or wrong. Things may come up immediately, things may come up at random moments – whenever they do, jot them down, or voice note them on your phone, whatever works for you.

First question:

What do you want?

Straightaway, you may go ‘I want what’s best for my parents, partner, family, kids’ – that’s not the question – the question is what do YOU want?

There may also be a temptation to jump to the big things – what career do I want, where do l want to live, what kind of partner do I want, where you might easily get lost because you don’t know what that might look like. If this happens, look to break things down into smaller bits – to do that use this question:

What do you want your life to look like?

Start with the very first thing you do every day - waking up. For most of us currently, that moment is dictated to us by our alarm clock – the second it rings, we either moan because it’s time to get up for work or school or college or to look after someone and we haven’t had enough sleep, or hit the snooze button (click) and try to grab a few more mins sleep, we basically don’t start off the day happy and in a good state. So in the life that you want, ask yourself what time do you want to get up? From here, move onto other small questions - who (if anyone) do you want sleeping next to you, what time is breakfast, where do you want to work, how many hours a week do you want to work?

If you’re still stuck, that’s ok. What may be happening is that you’re defaulting to answering in the style of ‘I don’t want…’, like ‘I don’t want to wake up to an alarm’. Write that down. If anything else in the same ‘I don’t want/like’ style comes up, get that down too.

Then once you’ve done that, create a second page or column and use the I don’t want/like answer to form the antithesis – which is what you do want. So for example I don’t want to wake up to an alarm turns into ‘I want to wake up of my own accord at 9am.’ When you carry on in the same vein of creating these antitheses, guess what? You’ve answered the question what do you want, as you’ve created a whole bunch of I want answers.

We’re not quite done, there’s one more question – how do you want to feel? Write down whatever emotion or feeling comes to mind if you were to get/achieve these I want answers

Have a go at this and see what comes up - feel free to share what came up for you below. I'll share the relevance of this exercise in the following post

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