Working on yourself is not easy or an overnight fix.
No matter where you are on your journey, or whether you're a man or woman, or practitioner or non-practitioner, you'll feel old patterns, scenarios and behaviours cropping up at times that you feel that you don't have an answer to/for and hence feel frustrated or hopeless.
Stay kind to yourself.
Your answers are there in your shadow and you have the courage to find, accept, reconcile, understand and drive your own change through them.